I have had 2 girlfriends in the past few years that i have been with regularly. This second one I have been dating since mid march and the thing is I really really like her. But I just get bored hanging around with the same person all the time and like when we just talk i already know everything about her and she me. I had this happen with my last gf to. I just need some more excitement ( I don;t mean this in a sexual way) I feel like these women just become someone for me to hang out with when im lonely and I constantly seek them out, I don;t look forward to seeing them, they just stop me form being lonely. I am very young and this scares me because when im single i enjoy the excitment of meeting new people but i get lonely and when Im with someone I get bored but not lonely. I dont think a "when you find the right perosn you will know" answer would me any good, like i said I really like this girl, Im just bored.
2007-06-15 16:14:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Both of you need to get involved with more things. Activities to share, and ones you do on your own. Then you are more involved in your life, and have less time together. The time you share will be more important. There won't be time to be bored.
You'll also make more friends, hopefully other couples your age to hang out with and have fun with. You may break up, but you won't be lonely.
2007-06-15 16:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Laurence W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you just haven't found the right one yet. If you only had two girlfriends you have a long way to go yet. When you find the one you love, you don't get bored with them. But with anyone, you can't spend 24/7 with them. You each need time to yourselves and with other friends. If you are lonely and bored all the time, you could be depressed. You need to get advice on this and make sure medically you are ok. But don't worry about dates not working out, people date for years and years before they find the right one if they ever do. Be patient.
2007-06-15 23:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad you need to be entertained constantly. A relationship is what you make it. Do you think that people that have been married for 50 years have had a party for every day of that time? You state that you like this girl, nothing about love. What you are in love with is the infatuation of meeting a new person. Once the infatuation wears off and you have to actually work at a relationship, you're too lazy to put forth the effort
2007-06-15 23:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your are strarting off Hopeless; not a good place to begin. Everything will be tinted with this "yeah but it probably won't work out" or "everything is futile" kind of shade.
If people think they know everything about each other, something is missing. People grow and change, and often they do that together. If you each know enough about each other that you are satisfied with the amount of information they have (i.e. there may be more to her but you don't really care to discover it) it could be a pretty strong signal to you that you aren't interested in her at all.
You are also straddling the line between independence and dependence... you gotta make a choice, bro. You either want to be around someone, or you don't. You act like it doesn't matter who so long as you're with someone, but I don't think you mean that.
OK I've talked enough smack.
2007-06-15 23:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you both can do things you've never experienced before together. Take a trip, a dance class, bed and breakfast, or something more daring. Me and my bf been together about 4 yrs. I dunno what it is but we never get bored. I think it is because we do things we enjoy and we have hobbies that we do sometimes with one another and sometimes by ourselves. Maybe you're just bored with yourself. Get a new hobby. That way you'll meet new people, possibly a new buddy and the experience of trying something could be good for you. I think you might be one of those people who enjoys meeting new people yet dont like being alone. Being alone is good sometimes. Gives you time to think and all those habbits you do when you're not around someone else is not a worrie if they bother them or not. You can be completely YOU. gl hope I helped
2007-06-15 23:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by mistista07 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you are ready to be in a relationship. Getting involved with someone because you are lonely is not going to benefit you or the other person involved. Become more comfortable being without a relationship and that might help. Therapy might do the trick.
2007-06-15 23:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you'd be better off being a single person. That way no one gets hurt and you can hang out with whoever you want, whenever you want. Being bored in a relationship isn't good, and it's just better to let her know and see how she's feeling...maybe you both feel the same way. Then it'll be a mutual parting.
2007-06-15 23:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is because you have not found the right person yet... when you find the right person i know that you will not get bored... i am the same way... i get over people so quickly that it scares me sometimes... i think that you just need to keep looking for the right person... this girl may not be the right one for you... you should want to see your girlfriend.. you should not be forced to see her...
2007-06-15 23:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by Broken Blue Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop using these poor girls! You have to figure out how to be by youself and content before you will find someone who does not bore you.
2007-06-15 23:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by lydiejane1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really liked her you wouldn't be bored. She obviously doesn't do much for you. Or maybe you expect too much.
2007-06-15 23:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋