If I believe my family is cursed with adultery, what do I tell my daughters ,if anything at all.Christian only

Question

Iam scared for their futures as far as I know every marriage and generation of my family has been effected.The girls are pre-teens.

all the men in my family have cheated on thier wives. They don't want a divorce when their cuaght and no bad sex isn't the reason.

Answer 1

first of all, if a husband is adulterous (or wife) their partner is released from marriage and free to marry again, according to the bible.

as for their futures, raise them in a godly home, teach them how to choose a man -- based of goodwill, fertility, and fidelity, as well as a love of christ, someone who will be a good father, breadwinner, companion -- not someone they are "in love" with because the sensation of being "in love" fades away, and youre left with nothing. now if you have more than being "in love" the fidelity, fertility, and goodwill, then god promises you true love as a result.

and dont bother them with these things at this time. they are pre-teens 10, 11, 12? they dont need to be thinking about finding a man, getting married. they should be raised to value themselves without having the thought of marriage constantly in the background. they will begin to define themselves based on getting married or not getting married.

teach them they are beautiful and wonderful girls, and the rest will fall in place.

and pray for them. thats all you can do. the rest is up to god.

Answer 2

Let them know they are marrying an imperfect person. Tell them that a close open, healthy communication skills with their spouse is crucial to a good marriage. Work those skills and see a counselor prior to getting married. This way you will know if the person is humble and seriously committed to making the relationship work. If he will not go in the lovey dovey stage then he sure won't put forth the proper effort in the thick of trouble or stay faithful in case of bad times that just need to be worked out.

If they say " We never fight" then they have no idea of the other persons communication skills in anger mode. Tell them to watch how their prospective other handles themselves in other situations where their relationship skills maybe revealed.

We were told that marriage takes Three. God has to be the center of the relationship and lived out in the home for Love to last and span the test of time.

They will do what they do and at some point all you can do is pray. Pray now for their future spouse and that they have a safe upbringing without relational viruses that they may bring into a relationship.

Answer 3

The Bible mentions “generational curses” in several places (Exodus 20:5; 34:7; Numbers 14:18; Deuteronomy 5:9). It sounds unfair for God to punish children for the sins of their fathers. However, this is looking at it from an earthly perspective. God knows that sin is passed down from one generation to the next. When a father has a sinful lifestyle, his children are likely to have the same sinful lifestyle as well. That is why it is not unjust for God to punish sin to the third or fourth generation – because they are committing the same sins their ancestors did. They are being punished for their own sins, not the sins of their ancestors. The Bible specifically tells us that God does not hold children accountable for the sins of their parents (Deuteronomy 24:16).

There is a trend in the church today to try and blame every sin and problem on some sort of generational curse. This is not Biblical. The cure for generational curses is salvation through Jesus Christ. When we become Christians, we are new creations (2 Corinthians 5:17). How can a child of God still be under God’s curse (Romans 8:1)? The cure, then, for a generational curse is faith in Christ and a life consecrated to Him (Romans 12:1-2).

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Answer 5

Generational curses.. Pray that the generational curse is lifted. Lift your girls up in prayer that they will not commit or have adultery committed towards them.. Tell them that this is a generational curse in your family.. Satan finds a weak link in the chain and that is what he goes for you and your girls need to pray together about it. Our family has many generational curses, sexual abuse, and adultery... The sexual abuse was broken by the prayers of my mom and aunt and grandma....so my sister, cousins and I were sparred. Adultery happened to me, but not to my sister...It is all prayer!!! so get on your knees and have your girls join you... when two or more are in agreement...

Answer 6

If you are Christian, the best thing to do for your girls are to pray for them daily and ask God to keep and protect them. Curses in the family can be broken when confessed to Jesus and if you really believe that your family is under such a curse, it is best to seek counsel, prayer and help from your pastor and his team. They can advise and pray for you.

As a mother who is concerned for her children, you should set the example by living a pure and godly life. Entrust your children to God and teach them from young to love God and to follow after His standards. Getting your children to be part of a church and its activities will be a good step towards this.

Answer 7

I absolutely agree with Christine. I think it's far more likely that members of your family have used this as an excuse for their behaviour, and to absolve them from taking responsibility for their own actions. Nobody HAS to commit adultery and it certainly isn't a genetic trait! Use your adulterous relations as examples to your girls of how not to behave.

Answer 8

I would warn your daughters not to get married in a hurry. At the church I attend we don't have pre-marriage classes we have pre-engagement classes. While no system is perfect at least potential couples go through a course where they find out if they are both committed Christians who have the basic compatibility to live a successful married life together. http://www.alcf.net

Answer 9

Teach them well. There is no such thing as a curse.

Are you affraid they will cheat or that their husbands will cheat? They need to choose their husbands well. Also if their husbands have a fling, they need to know that this is not an unforgivable sin and the marriage can still be saved.

Answer 10

Talk to them fully & honestly about what has happened within your family in the past, what your fears for them are.

Remember, we have a very loving God who only wants the best for us & will help us in whatever situation we find ourselves in if we ask Him to help & then are willing to let Him.

Also, there are some wonderful Christian family counselors out there. Check our the Focus on the Family website. They helped us find ours. Also, your local churches will probably be able to tell you about more.

My prayers are with you!