He started doing it the first time I met him. No matter what I say, he overtalks me, especially when I start to say something. He won't say something until I start to talk. It's maddening!! I don't want to be rude, but I need to tell him in a professional way to stop overtalking me. Any good suggestions? Thanks in advance!
2007-06-15 15:32:38 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
vinny, you're just sad. I wanted good suggestions, not your hillbilly ideas. Go back home to your sister/wife.
2007-06-15 15:41:50 · update #1
The next time he does this, close your mouth and stare at him. Give him no acknowledgement that you are listening to him and don't smile. When he finally stops to take a breath, say in a serious tone "I would appreciate it very much if you would let me speak without interrupting."
You will probably have to do it more than once.
2007-06-15 15:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm........It would be very tiring to deal with people's problems.....I think the best way would be just to get your property be managed by a real state agent.....or both yourself and a real state person.....if you find a very good one...you probably can handle difficult tenents better....for sure every one might have a problem....but I think changing people's behaviour is difficult unless you show them how they look like when they do something wrong...lack of communication skills is an epidemy....maybe you can video tape that person and then make a fun DVD to show him how he looks socially when he overtalks someone's else....
2007-06-16 00:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by wintersnow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man who has been led to believe that he is a brilliant and interesting talker has been led to make himself a rapacious pest.
The reasons that he does this could be one of many. My advice is to say, "excuse me, but I was talking". If he ignores you and continues on, then walk away. He will eventually get the hint.
The possibilities include:
He has the need to be heard and could really care less about what you have to say.
He has ADD
He has eaten too much sugar
He is ignorant to productive adult conversation which eventually leads to a point.
He lacks in conversation etiquette
He is from a family of loud talkers, and never got a word in edgewise, so he resorted to loud talking
He has a severe need to be heard
What he says is more important then what you are trying to tell him
2007-06-16 00:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sherri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks he's flirting with you. Maybe he's a control freak who thinks females shouldn't own anything and not be a landlord. Go with a male relative who is a good talker and let him tell the tenant to LISTEN TO THE LADY! Then send a written letter with all that you have told him to reinforce what you told him. That way you have a witness to the actual conversation and a document that spells out the jest of your conversation. Good luck.....but be wary of him. He sounds like a weirdo.
2007-06-16 00:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Hi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your tenant is not your friend or your employee, and there are few transactions that cannot be handled by email, letter, phone messages, or, when necessary, phone conversations. These are forms of communication that cannot be interrupted and are the most effective way of dealing with people who behave the way your tenant does.
Try one of these media for explaining the way you feel about being talked over while you are speaking.
2007-06-15 22:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by nightserf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking to him for? I have a tenant. All I need is the check on the first of the month.
People like that are annoying. Just keep talking and kind of make a game of it. Stop and start and talk loud and just throw him off. You should have fun with it.
2007-06-15 22:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by joker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GREETINGS, I would just say EXCUSE ME, I wasn't done talking yet very loudly. If he doesn't seem to hear you, I would take a little noisemaker or alarm and turn it on so he notices and stops then say I wasn't done talking yet. If that fails then I would drop him a note saying something like what I wanted to say and add in "since you seem to interrupt me and talk over me I can't get this message through to you so I'm writing it"
2007-06-15 22:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by Tina of Lymphland.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first question I would ask is what his cultural background is. Where I live, Italians have the reputation for doing that,especially to women. They need to be shown time and time again that you're the one in charge, and it takes a while to click. That's what bugs me about people who drag in old-country drama--we have our own without their machismo crap being brought on the boats (I'm Native American, so I can say that ehehehe.)
In other words, professional might not cut it. You may have to be rude.
2007-06-15 22:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Danagasta 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would say "Oh,I'm sorry I didn't mean to interupt you while you were talking" and walk away. I have an attitude though, sometimes I'll be nice and just wait until their done talking and then say what I had to say, I deal with this too sometimes it sucks.
Just make it known to them,and if they get mad they'll just look like a dick, they did interupt you afterall.
2007-06-15 22:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by tor_neko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let him know his rudeness is intolerable. He sounds like he has no time for people and does not want to be bothered. His talking over you is his way of saying shut up I'm not listening.
2007-06-15 22:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by jamoca 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋