two of my co-workers worked a special detail together; and the unit has been disbanned because they had "personality conflicts"... of course, EVERYONE at work has their opinion as to what happened.
I like to stay out of it! how do you address people who want to continue to conversation about others ill-fortune?
2007-06-15 15:14:00 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
my comment misPRINTED; i meant to say they want to continue to have conversation about the other employees.....etc.etc.
2007-06-15 15:14:52 · update #1
I think as a general rule I would avoid conversation in work place....if you want to talk about someone it is better to send letters to a forum.....or do it anonimously.....gossip is generally not acceptable in work place....My strategy is I try to be very serious and try not to make friends at work....work is work....it is not a cafe or family buisness....such things creates an unhealthy envirenment....abusive and harrasment...and I would rather to stay away..
2007-06-15 17:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by wintersnow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing yourself a favor by staying out of it. Gossiping about coworkers is very unprofessional and will bring them down in the long run. For now, when these coworkers try to drag you into their drama, just brush it off in the same way that you would if you were torn between two friends or exes that didn't like each other. Say things like, "I feel like I really didn't know her enough to have a strong opinion about her" or "I've heard so many things from both sides - I'd prefer to just stay uninvolved." After awhile, these coworkers will realize that you're not sympathetic and find some other sap to partake in their negativity. You'll be in a better place, emotionally and professionally, for remaining neutral. Good luck!
2007-06-15 15:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by koi-ness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite!!! With the financial equipment the way that this is... the costliest area of working a employer is paying workers. What some ppl don't be attentive to is it cost the employer your gross revenues & a chew of replace for the employer pay roll taxes + your withholdings... meaning, this is a collection in simple terms to maintain artwork rigidity on the books! So, if the employer is in a disaster, tell your coworkers so they may be searching for yet another activity!
2016-10-09 07:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by zeck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's just best to stop the person once you realize they are gossiping about the situation or about someone. One of the points of gossip is to keep the word moving. So, if you don't want the other person to think you are some sort of freak for not wanting to gossip, just listen and then let it go. Don't spread the word.
2007-06-15 15:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by VirgoMoon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't sound like you want to play dumb.
so if the topic comes up, one way is to show that you are aware but admit that since no person has the real details as to what happened, it'll be just a waste of energy to agree or disagree, what more speculate about the possible causes.
indeed, it has been said, "let me not judge a man, until i have walked a thousand miles in his shoes."
2007-06-16 04:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by jj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to tell them up front that you would like to stay out of it. They may think your odd or be put off by it, but it will save you from being involved and they are unlikely to bother you with anything else in the future.
2007-06-18 02:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by Ron B. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what I do...just open your eyes like a deer in headlights and act like you don't have the foggiest idea what they are talking about. Then turn around like somebody is calling your name, and call out, "Be right there!" Then, just smile at the person, say, "See ya later!", walk away. Works every time.
2007-06-15 15:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply say "that is really not any of my business. i do not know what happened so i cannot and do not have an opinion" and excuse yourself.
it's incerdible how even when you are many years out of high school, people still gossip like 15 year old school girls.
2007-06-15 15:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by jack_skellington49 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You change the subject, or excuse yourself from the conversation. Don't say anything when they talk about others--soon they will learn that you are not the gossipy kind.
2007-06-15 15:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you let it be known that you're not interested, soon they will quit trying to tell you about it. Make sure to change the subject every time it comes up.
2007-06-15 15:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋