I'm just curious because me and my boyfriend's idea of a good date is "A Playstation 2, a bottle of Coke, and thou." He's not into candles, flowers and handholding while watching Lifetime and neither am I, so I'm at a loss for an explanation. Ladies, why do you think that a man should be romantic?
2007-06-15 14:59:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay...but why do some women expect men who are emotional midgets/ 40 year old frat boys to become Mr. Sensitive on their anniversaries and birthdays? They know the guy is not like that when they marry him, but they still expect him to do those things. It's like it's all about them and reality doesn't matter.
2007-06-15 15:25:39 · update #1
No, I mean we do the things lovers do together (kissing, sex, etc.) and we've been together 4 years. I just don't get why some women insist on putting their men through things that aren't a shared interest just to prove their love. Then again, I am a weird person and so is he.
2007-06-15 15:40:18 · update #2
I think romance is in the eye of the beholder. Like you, my husband and I aren't in to the candles and flowers and stuff. But there are little things he does do which I consider romantic! Like...there's one coke left in the fridge, and he lets me have it.
Romance is just an old fashioned, traditional way of courting really. Men would give gestures to women like flowers, candy, etc, to show their devotion. In the modern world, this is nice, but not always necessary with each couple. You decide what is romantic for you! That's all that really matters.
2007-06-15 15:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by hrgirl1701 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That question has as many answers as there are ladies! Whatever works for you and your boyfriend is between the two of you.
My idea of a good date would begin with intelligent conversation with an intriguing man, he would have a great sense of humor, be thoughtful and considerate and make me feel as special to him as he would be to me. If you start with that, the rest of the date should be fantastic!
If you think that candles, flowers and handholding while watching Lifetime is what most couples do for a good date, then you've been spending way too much time sipping your Coke and on your Playstation 2. Maybe you both should get out more.
2007-06-15 15:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by BLM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romance is a sort of icing on the cake.... something highly desirable even though not essential. In the beginning, it is all romance, but gradually it dawns that the essentials have to be there first of all, before romance can have any meaning, and yet it is desired even by 'married for decades' women. I believe that ladies need an obvious reassurance every now and then through such romantic gestures, perhaps due to some inherent lack of confidence or a kind of insecurity. But what about men? Indeed there are a few who too fall in the same category, I mean looking for a reassurance every now and then. I think it all boils down to how independent and confident one feels, whether the woman or the man. For people like you who are quietly secure and confident in their own mind, romance can well seem to be peripheral excess devoid of much meaning.... and sometimes even exasperating!!
I congratulate you for a wonderfully insightful question like this one, especially admirable when coming from a woman.
2007-06-15 18:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by small 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! And there is an entire internet phenomenon for "slash" fanfiction - where women take the male leads in a given TV show or book and put them in relationships together. There's everything from novel-length romances to single-page PWPs (Plot, What Plot? or Porn Without Plot.) There's also a great deal of discussion in some places about why women like this. The most common reasons I've seen are: "One naked, handsome man is good, two are better." "It's nice not to have a woman to compare yourself to." "You get to make men have and express emotions more openly, so it's satisfying." "People can be stupid about gender, and the women in romances aren't women I can identify with, so I just skip it." There are many, many more reasons! But while there may be many women who don't enjoy it, there are certainly a lot of us who do.
2016-05-17 04:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by aracelis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ur talking about is just fun...romance is different because it makes a woman feel special. personally, i dont think the man should have to take on all the responsibility of romancing...a woman can romance a man just as well. for some ppl that means candles and and roses...for others it might mean mud-riding at night by the river and watching the sun come up the next morning (thats more my style than flowers anyday). whenever i get flowers, i put them in a coke bottle "vase" and watch them die (and i hate lifetime), so i agree with you about that stuff.
2007-06-15 15:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by ilovemysoldier 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Missy, let me tell you something. I used to be like you. I always said I didn't like romanticism and yada yada yada and I didn't look for it in a partner.
As it turns out, now, after being in a relationship for two and a half years with this non-romantic guy I've realized that romanticism is very much needed in this type of relationships. At least once in a while. As much as I hate to admit it, we (women) need to feel that we're pampered, taken care of, even if it's the tiniest of the gestures. We all (men and women) like to see that we are important for somebody and that the other person put effort to make a nice gesture for you.
Romanticism adds a lot to a realationship. Without romanticism, passion and sex, all you have is a friendship. Don't you think?
I'm sure that you're young... I guess time will prove me right.
2007-06-15 15:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by mackenzie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because we wanna be woo-ed..but ofcourse that is just the honey moon faze..it won't always be candles and roses..but you know whatever floats your boat..I personally would love it if it were a nice balance..one night play cards and eat pizza,another night have a candlelit dinner followed by some hot sex..hey gotta keep it interesting you know?
2007-06-15 15:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Melissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because I'd say 99% of women enjoy the romance in a relationship.
2007-06-15 15:02:18 · answer #8 · answered by Clueless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Romance is an expression of love. It is just like this relationship is a race you run together, and romance is that extra mile, he doesnt HAVE to take, but he does, JUST to show you how much he loves you.
2007-06-15 15:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by xoGennaox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romancing is basically giving a false atmosphere to fool the ladies that they are with someone else that they are not. I like it rough.
2007-06-15 15:02:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋