Why is this? Do women see kindness as a weakness? Does being a douche mean your a stronger person to women? What's the deal?
2007-06-15 14:55:16 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nice guys finish last. You got it. But that is totally ok. When your last you get to see everyone for who they are and coming in last means you might not get the first kiss and get the first lay, but you will be there for women to see and recog. Women are becoming more and more in tune with nice guys.
Id' say pump up your activity level or energy and that will help your standing. Women love comedy and someone they can feel safe with. Work that angle.
2007-06-15 15:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by kms 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being kind is NOT a sign of weakness. It doesn't mean you're a douche either. What it means is that you were raised right. Most women, all they dream of is to find a sweet, kind, respectful man. Don't worry, real love will find you, please don't change if you are talking about yourself. Good Luck!
2007-06-15 22:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by HibnerGirl74 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem comes in with confusing nice with weak. We women like a guy who is nice, but NOT a guy who is a doormat. We like to know we can't push you around. We like when a guy has certain limits and lets us know there are certain things he won't tolerate. If a guy is too nice and a doormat, the girl feels like she can get away with walking all over him and taking advantage, and she will. So be nice, but have a pair of balls too, and women will love you.
2007-06-15 21:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree it's mostly insecure guys who finish last. I would say there's a difference between being nice and being a pushover. playin the sympathy card wont get u anywhere. but if ur just been nice and ur not seem to be catching that girl..move on theres always plenty girls who's askng the same quesion why cant i find a nice guy! hmmm think on it
2007-06-15 22:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by Bird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they do. It's too much of a generalization. Some guys who are 'nice' won't end up with a girl/the girl they want, some will. The 'bad boy' image is sometimes played as attractive, but it's not a universal thing. Be yourself, and you'll find someone. In my opinion. :)
2007-06-15 22:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally look for the kind nice guys. Sometimes it takes women a while to grow up and realize whats important.
2007-06-15 21:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by tlbrown42000 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They move the finish line backwards when we were not looking so the others 0could finish first and no one tells us about it. Me, i am no longer running I am jogging to the finish line .
I am beginning to wounder, is there a price for being last?
Does it really matter to keep trying?
If Goodness is last, then badness is first, I could assume thenthat whom evever gets ther first, is gonna get a very awfull price .
2007-06-15 22:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by thiny72 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because a gentlemen goes down on his lady before taking care of himself. ;)
Women who grow up in unstable environments with abusive or neglectful fathers/relatives often attempt to recreate these unhealthy relationships unconsiously as adults/adolescents. Without therapy & counseling they dive into a never ending cycle of only being attracted to "bad guys" & not to "good guys" and then being abused or neglected or cheated on... or if they end up with a "good guy" they sabotage the relationship because they cant handle getting close to someone who doesnt treat them like crap.
A sign of fertility & strength is also the ability to intimidate others, (the whole leader of the pack kind of thing) but I think what you're referring to has more to do with the pervasive & chronic issue of child neglect & abuse in our world's society.
I'm so sick of the "so, ya, he's cheated on me like 4 times, but I love him! What do I do to keep him & make him stop cheating?" question.
A lot of women really believe that can change a man's innapropriate, offensive or abusive behavior, but it's not going to happen. As with anyone or anything, they have to find change from within & there's nothing you can do from the outside to make someone a better person.
So these women stay with the d*cks & destroy relationships with nice guys who actually treat them well....
luckily this does not apply to all women, and I have found a good guy! :D
2007-06-15 21:57:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well I actually love men that are sweet, and sensitive, but also I love a man with a rough side...I am not attracted to men that are weaker than I am...I'm a pretty strong woman, and if a guy likes me then he have to have backbone..its nothing wrong with being kind to your woman tho...just find you a woman that will be appreciative of your kindness
2007-06-15 22:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by girliegirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because nice guys realize that it is pointless to race. So they just sit back and wait for everyone else to get tired, and then, they are there at the end, to scoop up all the sloppy seconds.
2007-06-15 21:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by StayThirstyMyFriends 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋