She has so many other great qualities about her that i love...but the jealousy just drives me insane!!! Help!!
2007-06-15 14:48:48 · 12 answers · asked by Matt k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mynxie is right. The heart and mind just don't recover from being cheated on. She probably does trust you, but when something happens that reminds her of past hurt, she will respond with jealousy. Sorry but it is the way it is. Believe me, if she could turn off those feelings of insecurity she would, it really stinks to feel that way. Your only option is try to understand and learn to live with if you can. If you cant then you have a decision to make, but trust me , you'll be hard pressed to find a woman who hasn't been wronged in some way. You can t exactly screen women with an interrogation about past relationships and personality traits such a being prone to jealousy. Good luck to both of you.
2007-06-15 14:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by HLBellevino 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well her jealousy will prob never go away because of trust issues so you could leave her and move on or you can wait until she starts to trust you witch might take a vary long time.
2007-06-15 15:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This needs a heart to heart. These kind of things can break even the strongest relationship. You need her trust and you need to flat out ask for it/demand it. Some women even feign "jealousy" to send men the message that they care and they are watching. Sometimes it goes too far and gets annoying. Maybe she just needs to hear you spell it out for her. :)
2007-06-15 14:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by ~Brenda~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Run for the hills..............
The truth is, the sex is good, isn't it? And that is why you stay. The sex is good because she thinks this will keep you around. This is how she controls you. After you marry her the sex will cease but the jealousy will remain.
Resolve this before marrying her. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity and it will wear you out, I promise.
2007-06-15 14:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by joker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I thought my Girlfriend would grow out of her jealous, control-freak, self-centered ways but whoever hurt her in the past must have broke the knife off in her because it NEVER went away. When you think about it thoroughly you realize that it is just a sign of no respect for you. She even checks through my phone, wallet, decodes my passwords and everything else. Im sure she will even read this response to you!
I dont think no one is as bad as my current gf but if yours is anything like it, be prepared for a hell-ride!
Im sure she is sexy and probably a freak but you have to think if you want to go through that hell for some great sex. Its sure getting tiring to me!
2007-06-15 14:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably insecure about herself, which is why she's so jealous. I would advise trying to talk to her, and ask her why she's bothered so much by it. You obviously care about her, otherwise you wouldn't be taking the time to ask this question! Make sure she knows how much you care about her, and maybe she'll calm down a little.
If she still doesn't stop, you're going to have to make it clear that she can't act that way...which may mean breaking up with her.
2007-06-15 14:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by kayrine13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. Having dealt with that, I just learned to keep reassuring her that she had no reason to be jealous, every time she started having a fit over something irrelevant. It was always annoying, but she gave up eventually. It just pissed me off when she'd go ballistic over something someone ELSE said to ME! Like I'm immediately going to jump on anyone who bats an eyelash at me! And it was ******* females ONLINE that would piss her off! I don't even know these ******* people who'd write to me, and she's blaming me. God she was a ******* lunatic.
So, yeah, good luck there.
2007-06-15 14:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her for a 3 some
2007-06-15 14:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't cure someone else's jealousy, which is her subconscious fear of being alone or being unloved. You can love her all day long, but if she doesn't love herself, your love can't fix her.
2007-06-15 14:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no cure. Unfortunatley. *sigh* It usually stems from past relationships and they way they were treated. Usually by being cheated on. Trust me, I know. :-(
2007-06-15 14:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mynx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋