Ok. I have to work this entire weekend 12 hour shifts which usually turn into 15 hour shifts. I will not be able to see my sweetie until Monday afternoon at the very earliest.
Today, I snuck over to his house where he was sleeping soundly and crawled into his bed thinking we could have a couple hour nap and when we woke up, we could engage in some romance and love making.
Before the sheets settled in, his son-in-law came knocking on the bedroom door to borrow his truck. I was so pissed, I couldnt hardly believe myself. I was kind and got up and went out to meet his relatives and shake their hands and greet them kindly, but after this, the romance was gone. I was just pissed. It happens everytime. Its bad enough these users lived with him for a year, now they pop in unannounced and dont have sense enough to know that we are busy.
Now he is mad accusing me of being a *****.
We work opposite shifts and our time is limited. I wanted to give him an early fathers day surprise
2007-06-15 12:48:12 · 6 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are awfully territorial when 1) you don't live there, 2) you aren't married, 3) it is his family for goodness sake and 4) you were not even expected to be there.
Time to rethink what happened here a bit. It's called life--stuff happens.
Shrug it off......and look forward to Monday afternoon.
2007-06-15 13:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really cant blame him for this one because he didnt know that his son in law would be coming over..and if he did, im sure he didnt expect you to be coming over either.
I understand how you feel. My boyfriend works nights and I work days so its hard sometimes, even when it includes the weekend.
Because of the big difference in your work hours, its best to preplan time together so that you wont have those last minute interruptions at the last minute of being together. I suggest that if these people come over at random times, ask him could he ask them to call first before they come over. They should be doing that anyways, but because its family, family sometimes can get away with just popping up.
You have to be willing to compromise on this one...
When you surprise people who work on different shifts, you cant be to upset because that person doesnt expect you and might have something else going on.
2007-06-15 13:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really get mad because it is your boyfriends place and you don't live there. It is up to him to decide who has to call before they come over or who can just pop by. If you are at his place you should know what his family is like. If you should ever move in with him, then you definitely have a say in people just popping over. Until then, you don't really have a say in it. Maybe you should invite him to your place next time and plan a romantic evening with no interruptions.
2007-06-15 13:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by CARM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be naive if he can't see that their using him, but family is family. Explain to him what you were asking in your question...if he doesn't understand then may-be your future isn't with this guy and his family. Tell him how you feel, and that you wanted to spend time with him...ALONE...without being interrupted...don't give him the time old alternative of me or family, that will just make him even madder.
2007-06-15 12:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by Esta.Is.My.AKA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to make it a rule (if its his house ) and hang a hat on the door or a Do Not to disturb sign is that way of telling people to leave the two of you alone .
2007-06-15 12:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gift your man with a copy of Virginia Woolf's A ROOM OF ONE'S OWN. It explains everything...
2007-06-15 12:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋