What advice can you give to a newly wedded couple?

Question

We just got married a month ago and would appreciate advice, as noone knows all and and there is always room for learning

We have recenetly got married and would appreciate any advice, as you live and learn...

Answer 1

Dont go to bed mad or with dirty dishes in the sink...

Answer 2

1) You fell in love with your spouse because of how he or she is, so don't try to change them.

2) Marriage shouldn't be like two people become Siamese twins. You both need to pursue your own interests, and keep looking for things to expand your mind and imagination as life goes on. Try travel, scuba diving, take a gourmet cooking class. Don't sit at home in front of the tv.

3) To the Husband: there is an old saying, "Treat your wife like a thoroughbred, and she won't turn into a nag". It's true.

4) To the Wife: Nagging will accomplish one thing. Your husband will eventually just stop listening to you. Don't nag.

5) Keep a sense of humor. If you argue, don't turn it into a screaming match.

6) Few things say you love someone more than a real, loving hug. A kiss is soon forgotten. A loving embrace is like a declaration of love.

7) Many young couples fight about money. Decide early on to have a financial plan, and stick to it. Don't be one of those couples that are always in financial peril. Talk now to a financial planner and a big cause of stress and tension will be removed.

8) Never say anything cruel to one another. Some things just can't be forgotten or forgiven.

9) Try consciously to have a fun, event-filled life. There used to be an commercial for the Army: "If your life was a book, would anyone want to read it?"

10) Memories fade. Buy a really good camera, like the Canon XT Rebel, and take fotos often. In sad times, you can look at the photos and reminisce while planning another trip or family get together to add to your collection.

Answer 3

Listen to each other; give each other space; forgive each other; find a way to get out of the house and have fun, no matter how little money you may have; parks are free. Save a little money, even if it's only $5 a week - put it in an account and don't touch it unless it's literally a life-or-death situation, or unless you've reached a savings goal and are ready to buy something. Spend a little money on fun now and then, even if it's just an ice cream cone. If you want something big, like a house or a car, make a plan to get it - don't just say "some day." Respect each other; never go to bed angry; hug each other at least once a day just because.

Mazel Tov!

Answer 4

I'm getting married in october and have been told the best advise is tolerance. Remeber your not perfect and when he's having a bad day that you could have one tommorrow. When he doesn't pull his weight, you might not tommorrow and when he makes a mistake it could be one you'll make too. Just know that some times you'll need to take a deep breath before you answer and that it's ok to not like each other very much sometimes, it doesn't mean you love each other any less.

Answer 5

My honest best advice is treat him the same as you wish to be treated! Seems simple right, well it's harder than it seems!
When his towel is in the middle of the floor after you've asked him 6 times to pick it up, but he still hasn't, think about how you would want him to speak to you, it the tables were turned! Seems simple, but it's hard to do when you're upset!
Second, appreciate him! Thanks him, dote (sp?) on him, tell him how wonderful he is and how great of a job he's doing! Never let him wonder if you appreciate him and all he does! And the same goes for the way he does you!
As soon as one of you feels underappreciated or taken for granted, problems will arise!
Third, learn to laugh! If it's not going to still be a problem in a few days, odds are, it's not worth getting upset over! So laugh at it instead!
Good luck with a happy life together!

Answer 6

WELL CONGRATULATIONS. U BOTH TOOK A BIG STEP IN LIFE TOGETHER. THAT IS THE KEY-TOGETHER. IT IS NOW ABOUT WE THIS OR WE THAT. NO MORE I DID THIS OR I DID THAT. U ARE A FAMILY NOW THAT WILL GROW SOMEDAY. JUST REMEMBER THAT WITH TRUST NOTHING CAN GO WRONG NO MATTER HOW SMALL THE WORLD MAY SEEM. RESPECT EACH OTHER WITH A LOT OF LOVE AND SUPPORT. BE PATIENT AND CARING TO EACH OTHER FEELINGS. BE EACH OTHER'S BEST FRIEND. U NEED TO BE EQUAL IN EVERYTHING. ( INCLUDING CHORES) UNDERSTANDING EACH OTHER IS THE BEST PART OF A RELATIONSHIP. DO NOT FORGET TO DREAM THE IMPOSSIBLE. NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY WITH EACH OTHER. INSTEAD GIVE A LOT OF HUGS AND KISSES. PLAN THINGS TOGETHER. TRY TO GO ON A VACATION AT LEAST ONCE A YEAR. ONE MORE THING, COMMUNICATION IS A MUST. HAVE FUN AND GOOD LUCK.

Answer 7

talk and listen!
Never go to bed angry or with something on your mind/heart. We have this motto...
"Marriage is 100% of both of us, 100% of the time".
Try to pick your battles... some things are just not worth fighting over. Remember to respect one another in everything that you do. We still have date nights... even if it is just a movie. Find common interests and spend time doing those things together! Set goals... financial goals are a must... you can't live outside your means! Also, the first year is always the hardest... I promise it gets easier.

Answer 8

Communicate!!!! Talk!!!! Listen!!!

Whether its about life, problems or sex.

If you don't you'll only end up keeping secrets from each other and that isn't good!

Listen. Remember there are two side/opinions.

Talk and there should be no misunderstandings, no deceit and nothing to hide.

Your relationship should grow stronger and you won't have to sit thinking what the other person is thinking/doing/hiding.

Answer 9

Respect each other always. Everything else stems from that: communication, trust, understanding, empathy, sympathy - it all starts with respect. So listen to each other, say I love you a few times a day, always hug goodbye in the morning and hello after work, never raise your voices to each other, and keep your family out of problems - if you do have a fight and tell your family, they may still think poorly of him long after you two make up.

Best wishes for a happy life together!

Answer 10

Give each other space to do your own thing.

Don't be selfish and think only of yourself...remember you have a partner who has wants and needs too.

Sometimes its best to not say anything at all.

Don't have children until BOTH of you are ready to have them. That may mean that one of you has to wait another 1 or 2 years, but in the long run, you and the children will be better off.

My husband and I have been married for over 30 years and we found that the above things really helped during our marriage. If you love and respect each other, you will have a wonderful, long marriage. Good luck.

Answer 11

Communication! It doesn't have to be sitting down at the table talking, it can be in passing as you're walking to the bathroom. Always talk. Play games together, talk, laugh, surprise them with a gift or something. Keep it all fun. Except for finances, that's serious. We talked about my finances before marriage and it helped a LOT. We talked about everything...my past, his past, our parents, everything. Keep those lines of communication open.

I swore after my first marriage that I'd never find anyone else, but I did. I'm never going to ruin it.