She died on Nov 8, 2006. The loss is still raw for him. I care for him a lot. I don't want to hurt him by remindig his of his loss.
2007-06-15 12:27:28 · 36 answers · asked by Dave-O Tacoboy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wouldn't interpret a Father's Day acknowledgment as reminding him of the loss of his wife, although I don't see anything wrong with acknowledging her importance to him, either. The Father's Day connection is about your relationship with him, and I'll bet he'd appreciate knowing you're thinking of him and that you care about him.
2007-06-15 12:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by Dan H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered the question for yourself when you said " I care for him a lot". Father's day is about showing your love and appreciation for the father in your life. Whether it is a step father, father-in -law or simply a father figure, I don't think it matters.
As far as your mother, I am sorry for your loss. Unfortunately it is not a matter of reminding someone of loss, it is always with them. But this serves as further reason to show your step-father that he is not alone and that the two of you are still family.
2007-06-15 12:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by bkscorpio 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, why would you even wonder? The death of your mom has nothing to do with the relationship you may have developed with you stepfather. I am sure he would be delighted to see that you continue to think of him in a positive light.
This is not about your mom, it is Fathers Day, show your feelings for him, just as you honor your mom on Mothers Day.
2007-06-15 12:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can (especially if you genuinely feel those sentiments are warranted). He's not going to forget what he's lost in any case. I can think of no better way to honor the memory of your mother than to have the things she treasured in life endure through those she left behind. I am truly sorry for your loss. Continued closeness to you may help him focus on the joys of her life, and not just the pain. Love endures; love's eternal. God bess you both.
2007-06-15 12:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you care about him a lot then by all means give him a card, gift, take him to dinner or whatever you want to show him that even though your mother may be gone you are still there for him. Show him that he is still very important part of your life.
2007-06-15 17:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it would be the loving thing to do. He has lost her but, he has not lost you!! Just think what your Mom would want you to do and honor that! In this way, you will be honoring them both!!
I am so sorry for your loss! Both of my parents are gone now and I know how hard it is on holidays and such. I sincerly wish you the best!
2007-06-15 12:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey.
Im so sorry for your loss. It might be nice even if you just got him a fathers day card just to show you still care.
2007-06-15 12:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fathers day has nothing to do with your mother. Its about honoring the man who was your father. It is something between a child and the father. If you feel he fulfilled that role for you then you should let him know. If you dont he may feel totally forgotten.
2007-06-15 12:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, please do recognize him on fathers day. He means a lot to you, so do!! Don't worry about reminding him of the loss. He feels it everyday just like you do anyway. To have you think of him as your father will touch him deeply!
2007-06-15 12:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by oldknowitall 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be a nice guesture and it would remind him that you care and are thinking about him. Being in mourning can be really rough. You should especially if you have done something for other Fathers Days since he might be expecting sometihng.
2007-06-15 12:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by amber 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋