Is it really worth helping people!? They seem to just forget 10 minutes later and even when they thank me it doesn't mean they really appreciate what I've done. I started out not wanting anything in return, but there's actually NOTHING given back and I always end up alone, I'd probably just be better off being a dick. Is it really worth helping people and if so why cos I'm really starting to doubt it!
2007-06-15 12:19:57 · 29 answers · asked by spark 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Helping people is good because it helps them. But I think another big reason that helping people is that you know that it is the right thing to do and it makes you feel happy and a better person. If that person doesn't appreciate it or takes it for granted, then that's sad for them, but at least you know that you were helpful to them and that makes you a good person!!! Keep being nice and don't change!!
2007-06-15 12:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is worth, even if they don´t appreciate it. But be careful about it, don´t allow others to use or manipulate you just because you´re a good guy. If you want to help others, don´t expect noting from them. Just feel satisfied because you are doing something good.
Being a dick? Yeah, probably you´d become more popular... perhaps because people would rather be with you than against you for fear of consequences. You don´t seem to me that kind of person. Honestly, what do you think that is more important? Being popular, or being a good person?
Just to finish, I would add that the person that you should help in the first place is YOU! You are really worth it.
Hope it helps you to feel a little better. Good luck!
2007-06-15 19:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by selene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've spiralled into that mindset a time or two, then I remember that the reason for helping people in the first place was to cultivate personal good karma...there is ALWAYS a return though it's not always obvious, not always the one you expect, and not necessarily immediate. Only you can truly decide whether it's worth continuing or not, but somehow I believe if you were comfortable being a "dick" you'd have already been one by now. Good luck to you, Man. It gets better.
2007-06-15 19:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of KARMA dude???
Yeah, I gotta say it's true man. But that don't mean let people walk all over ya.
U can help people, but sorta be discerning about it. Like u can usually tell if someone just wants u to do somethin for em cuz they are either too lazy or havent got the guts to do it themself. Those u can sorta skip by.
Find people who really need help, and are willing to put some effort of their own into it with your help. Those types usually are the ones who appreciate it the most too.
Like I got kids around me who always want their stuff fixed, bikes, boats, etc. I will fix it usually, but I know the ones who appreciate the help cuz they wanna know how I fixed it, or they wanna help me fix it so they know how the next time.
Others who just want it done free, don't give a crap what was wrong or how I fixed it.
2007-06-15 19:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heh..... I feel your pain, man. I used to feel that way, but after a while, I figured out how to avoid people who were hollow like that. Now, the only people who really ask me for help are the ones who really care. And these are the people I truly care for myself, so it makes me feel good to help them through tough times.
Please don't see me as a prick, but as harsh as it may sound, just help the people you really care for as much as you can. Everyone else? Let them go to hell.
In the mean time, maybe you should talk to someone; a friend or a counselor or someone, because you really seem pretty upset about this.
2007-06-15 19:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Sparky , you may not get a thank you for every kindness in your life, and truthfully, that is not the reason you would help some one,But , trust me , some day, it will be your turn to need help and it will be provided. Just continue to be the good person you have been, it will pay off in many ways. sit down put your feet up and be proud of who you are . I am
2007-06-15 19:26:56 · answer #6 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't become a prick.
Now that you have learned that not everyone wants or appreciates the help you give them, you can just be a lot more selective about whom you give your help to.
There is a scripture in the Bible that says:
"Thus, every good tree bears good fruitage, but rotten trees, wicked fruitage. No good tree bears wicked fruitage, nor a rotten tree good fruitage."
You never know what fruitage your kind actions will yield in the long run. If you turn into a prick, what kind of fruitage will that really yield for YOURSELF?
2007-06-15 19:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by NolaD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are helping people and expecting something in return, youre doing it for all the wrong reasons. A person helps another person from the heart, becuae they genuinely want to help them, not to get praise or a slap on the back in return
2007-06-15 19:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by kajun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need new friends, if they all do this to you.
I think that some people are unaware that they might be being thoughtless. Some don't care, and that's indicative of their character. Maybe you help so much people take you for granted. Maybe you should do something for yourself, cheer yourself up every now and then. Otherwise, the resentment will build up worse than it is now.
2007-06-15 19:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by A Random Point in Space and Time 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point of helping people isn't for you to get something out of it, the point is to feel the satisfaction of you helping. Meaning you made there body's stress level decreased, and in a way you saved there lives.
2007-06-15 19:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by breanna1227@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋