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okay there is this guy that was a teachers aid in my p.e class. i would see him everyday but i would never talked to him or had any intrestes in him. but this summer he told me he likes me and i was the only reason he came to class. theres a couple problems. 1st of all he seems kinda obsessive and too nice. i dont know why but i wish he would say something mean to me. HES JUST TOOOO NICE! it kinda buggs. the 2nd problem is im 15 and hes 19. he just graduated from my school and thats a huge age difference! im afraid to tell my other crush that i like him because if i hook up with him this guy will get hurt because every girl hes gone out with had cheated on him or treated him like ****. he told me that he would never hurt me and he would treat me like a princess. thats what every girl wants but do i want that? please answer!!!!!!!!

and how would my mom feel that i would be dating a 19 year old?

Answer 1

Well - he could end up in jail.

Answer 2

I think you are infatuated with the fact an older and 'more' mature boy likes you. Being 25, I would say stay away. I'd use the too good to be true philosophy. Guys at that age aren't thinking with the right head. Not til at least 25. As for the other crush, how do you really feel about him? If- before the 19 year old hit on you- you had true feelings for him, I'd stick with him. You're less likely to get in trouble that way anyway. The 19 year old I can garauntee is bad news. If you don' t really like your original crush, then tell him the truth, that you aren't into him "that" way, and remain as good of friends as you started out...

Answer 3

You see, this is what happens when teens tie themselves down. Opportunities for more friendships are out there, but no, you have to have a bf/gf; then you get all confused when someone else comes along with a smile and a kind word for you. Why can't you just be friends with a lot of people? Develop meaningful friendships and see what's out there before tying yourself down. You are way too young to date a 19-year-old, anyway. He wants things that you're parents wouldn't be happy about you giving up just yet. Besides, like the answer above, it's against the law.

Answer 4

first of all, at least in california, you guys even dating is what's called statutory rape. Sure, the prosecutors probably won't take the time to prosecute it, but it is illegal.

that being said, i know your mom would be pretty upset if you date someone with such an age difference. if you have another crush, then why take the risk?

as to him being too nice, i think there's a difference between being "nice" and being a "pushover". one is good, the other is just wussy. most women want someone who's gonna be a man. who can stand up for himself and take control of a situation. but at the same time, you don't want someone who's going to treat you like dirt. if you can figure out which one he is, then you probably have your answer. the fact that he's "obessesive" and wants to date a girl 4 years younger than him is kinda creepy and i'd stay away.

as for your other crush, if u think u might not treat him as well as he deserves, walk away. dont let him get further messed up yb thinking all women are cheaters.

Answer 5

I'd say stay away from the guy. At 15 someone who is 19 is way too old. Stick to guys your own age. Nothing good could come of it.

Answer 6

I dated someone older when I was 15, and it ended in a restraining order and him trying to kill my new boyfriend. If this guy is that much older, he should be able to find women his own age (no offense to you). If he is being so nice and "wooing" you... I would beware. You're too young to make a serious commitment right now (again, no offense) and you're also too young to be engaging in a phsyical relationship with him. He should realize that and not pursue you.

If I were you, you may want to talk to a school counsleor about this.

Answer 7

Legally it won't do, as you are legally underage in your country. If you have a sexual relationship, he could get into serious trouble for statutory rape.

Have him meet your parents. If they like him, they might give you permission to go out.

Personally I don't think it's that big of a gap, but seeing as you are legally underage, it could be problematic. Once you're 18, and he's 22, it won't be an issue at all.

Answer 8

Well as a mom myself I woudl have issues with my daughter seeing someone 19 if she was 15.. especailly since i knwo hwo i was at 15.
You don't know thsi guy. There is no problem being friends and getting to know each other.
Go slowly. Don't hurt your other friend by telling him about this guy. At 15 it is alot better to have guy friends verses boyfriends.
Do talk with mom.

Answer 9

If I were you I would find someone around your age because he is 19 and he can get into serious trouble since you are a minor. Age does not matter if you are 18 and above.

Answer 10

Haha if it buggs that he's too nice its not worth it seriously. I know they say age is just a number but I don't believe that. With age comes maturity and you don't need another man when boys your age are already leaking with immaturity. And you're just gunna hurt him more if you lead him on. I know its hard but nip it in the bud.

Answer 11

If I was your Mom, I would be very unhappy with you going out with a 19 year old. Do not get involved with him, and stay with your own age group, until you are an adult, then you can do whatever you want.....