should You till be their friend? Do you tell them why you don't want to be their friend anymore or just stop talking to them?
should i text him to let him know that i'm going to stop talking to him or tell him over the phone?
P.s. I haven't told the person how I feel but I can tell they don't feel the same about me..he is even in love with someone else right now...
Thank you for reading and answering my question....
2007-06-15 12:01:39 · 22 answers · asked by sweeiepie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should tell him how you feel and if you find out you were right and he doesn't like you the same way; then decide if you can handle just being friends with him.
Otherwise you will be miserable every time you see him with his girl and you might miss out on Mr.Right by hanging on to the small hope that he may love you one day.
2007-06-15 12:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by Helpfulhannah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh,
You can never be to sure about that, and the only way to find out is to either honestly tell him how you feel, or just jokingly tell him you once had a crush on him, see how he react to this, if it's a positive reaction, you may now go ahead to say sometimes you still feel like you want to be more than friends with him, but that you are not sure. This will let him speak out, if he feels the same or not.
Other way is just to tell him you would like to stop being his friend bcos you have realised you are developing feelings from him, and this is not right because you know he's in love with somebody else. If he feels the same, he'll never let you go, otherwise, he'll appreciate you for your honesty and wish you well in life.
But one thing you shouldn't do is just leave things unchecked, and do the disappearing act. How would you know if he feels the same or not?
Good luck
2007-06-15 19:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
several options, but this one i like the best. Either let him know how you feel about him or just slowly withdraw from him? Why? You need some time to get used to the fact that he is in love with someone else and not you.I think that not doing this will be hard on your heart and feelings because you will be constantly reminded that you cannot have him. It's almost like a tease. Should you tell him i am going to not talk to you anymore for a while? I wouldn't.
2007-06-15 19:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by uz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some familiarity with this subject...if it's worth it to you, I would risk telling him once because it may influence the outcome in your favor. After that you'll enter a gray area (where I currently reside) and the answers are more difficult and therefore more personal. Terminating friendships is painful, but so is the pain of unrequited love. Evaluate where you're actually standing then decide how best to handle that situation. Just remember to always respect yourself no matter how you're feeling, and let your conscience guide you accordingly. Good luck to you.
2007-06-15 19:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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If you're not really close friends, then you don't even need to tell him anything, just stop hanging around. If you've been friends for a long time, this is stickier. If it were me, I would take time out for myself, but in the end keep the friendship.
I'm happy to see that you've been considering leaving the situation altogether instead of wanting and waiting to no avail. Good, love yourself first.
Best to you.
2007-06-15 19:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by Dolores G. Llamas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation. First, I'm sorry to hear that you are in it. Second, even if you like the guy, you probably should direct your romantic interest elsewhere. If you keep it focused on him, then you will be waiting around and hoping for his current relationship to end and then for him to come running to you. Not only does that not happen, but it's not very nice - as his friend - to hope for his relationship to fail, even if you're hoping in secret. If you like being with the guy, then remain his friend. (Is the only reason you're thinking about not talking to him anymore because he already has a girlfriend?) There is nothing wrong with having friends of the other gender......but focus your romantic interests elsewhere. I hope this helps.
2007-06-15 19:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is between two people. think of it as an extremely strong infatuation or an emotional attachment. and no if you feel uncomfortable being his friend you dont have to be. just let him know that its easier for you if the two of you stop seing so much of each other. sms, call whatever you want. as far as i see it you dont owe him a dam thing. and with all due respect to him, if the way he feels for you eliminated the possibility of a relationship, then theres nothing wrong with letting him know that the way you feel for him eliminates the possibility of a friendship. youre no worse than him. good luck!
2007-06-15 19:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by sarcastic.existence 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop talking to them, and look for a new love. You don't have to explain yourself. When you find someone new, you won't even think about this person anymore, you'll be too busy with someone who loved you back.
2007-06-15 19:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT tell him. Words once said can't be taken back. DO NOT tell him (text, email) that you're not talking to him anymore. That's immature; just be too busy with other things to see or talk to him much.
If you really love him, keep the option of his coming to his senses open while you look for other guys or learn to drive or practice your French or master sukoku or golf
2007-06-15 19:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its better to have someone as a friend than to not have them in your life at all.... I would just put your feelings aside and try to do the friend thing... sometimes the best relationships come from friendships!!! Good Luck sweetie!
2007-06-15 19:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by ~ Rachel B.~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋