I think it's down right vulgar and indecent to use such unrefined words to adults. We are suppose to live in a adult, professional society but it seems like it's just the opposite.
2007-06-15 12:01:27 · 22 answers · asked by icyhott4urmind 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm a fire fighter and I've tried talking to victims in many different ways. I find when people are going through traumatic times they respond to being treated with sympathy, and sometimes feel reassured by this type of talk. I think it's definitely overdone by some but it is calming and reassuring to someone in need.
I also disagree that these words are vulgar and indecent. My husband and I use them on a daily basis and our relationship is wonderful.
2007-06-15 12:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I think your wrong. Just because a certain dialect seems inappropriate because it is not "professional" doesn't mean that it's vulgar. It's matter of tolerance and cultural difference. In Hispanic cultures many professionals use this sort of language and it's common also in most European countries, even though in America most of these "starters" and "enders" are regarded as sexual harassment. Either way it is all a matter of perception, however just because your not use to it doesn't mean it's "unrefined".
2007-06-15 13:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by natibiris 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I use "hon" at the end of my sentence to soften the blow of what I'm saying, or just to show I care. It's not vulgar at all. I use "sweetie" when I talk to kids. I don't mind at all when people use these names on me. At least, people are being kind. If you want vulgar, try using cuss words at the end of a sentence, now that's vulgar.
2007-06-16 12:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person and the situation. It offended me more when I was younger, but I've mellowed a bit as I've aged, so little things like that rarely bother me. I still feel uncomfortable with "baby" and "dear", but "hon" and "sweetie" don't bother me at all. I look at it as if the person, usually a waitress or some other service oriented person, would like to call me by my name, but doesn't know it. Makes it easier to tolerate.
2007-06-15 14:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by EvilWoman0913 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on excatly who is using these words and what their tone is. I know people, mostly from more rural backgrounds, that use these terms & they mean no harm or disrespect. I do believe in some cases it is a cultural thing.
However, I don't appriciate men, who I know don't have rural bone in their body, to use these terms when they are obviously trying to put the moves on. In that kind of situation, I find these terms too personal & a little bit disrespectful.
2007-06-15 12:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by BethS 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm a university student and just finished a research project on Women's Language...the words you listed are often thought of to be used by or in regard to women, most of the time.
I found that most people think using these words isn't anything detrimental or weakening to them or others...it's just another way of speaking. In fact, my research has shown that most people think it's indicative of a higher vocabulary when one can use more eclectic words when expressing themselves or in communication.
Most people who use words like that aren't trying to hurt your feelings. You can get mad about whatever you want, but in the end, if it's intention that you're worried about...they have no intention of demeaning you, I'm sure.
Of course, that can't be said to be true in EVERY case. My advice is to try not to take it so seriously and you may find some politeness in their tone. And politeness is a powerful conversational tool.
2007-06-15 12:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
No harm meant by it in most cases. But if it is in the context, of belittling you or putting you in your place it is darned annoying. I do use it.
For me it is generally a term of sympathy for the individual's difficulty.
As in:
Don't worry Sweetie....
Or let me help you with that Hon...
2007-06-15 14:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by Goddess of Laundry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iT depends on WHO is saying it, how they are saying it and who they are saying it TOO. Does that make sense? Like if an old man says it to a young girl, it's vulgar and indecent, if a boyfriend says it to his girlfriend, then it's kind of sweet and innocent and endearing....
2007-06-15 12:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Probably because of being steeped in legalism. I don't care for the term to love the sinner and hate the sin because if you love everyone, [and every one is a sinner], then you cover the sin, not hate it. For love covers a multitude of sins and love delights in overlooking a fault.
2016-04-01 09:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE. There is nothing vulgar about being warm. very few people have a grasp on actual professionalism. Remove the rod, relax, and enjoy life once in a while, mmmkay.
2007-06-15 12:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by Edhelosa 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋