my boss keeps hitting on me, i've just walked out, please read.?

Question

i work in a bar and my boss keeps hitting on me, i've told him 3 times that we're only ever going to be friends thats it. then on monday he text me again telling me he liked me and i told him again, tonight went i went to work about half an hour in to my shift he came up to me and said what i text you the other night is how i feel and i said right with that he said if your going to be like that and walked off. i carried on with my shift and he said i'm in your bad books now. i said no it's fine, every time i took a breath of air after that he had a go at me. i asked to go for a cigerette and he said you've only been on for 3 hours and all the other staff had had two and been on for a hour so i pulled him a side an ask him why he kept snapping at me and he went mad so i left, what do i do please help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

You contact the department of labor immediately, at www.dol.gov. You file a harassment complaint based on a "hostile work environment." You document everything that happened that you can remember - dates, times, exactly what he said to you and what you replied, whether or not he touched you or tried to restrain you in any way, whether he offered you preferential treatment if you agreed to his advances, etc.

The DoL will file a complaint on your behalf for free. You may also want to contact an employment attorney who works on a contingent basis (they get a percent of the award that they win for you.) Many offer free or low-cost consultations. you appear to have a pretty clear-cut case of sexual harassment here and should be due an award of back pay plus other damages.

Good luck!

Answer 2

First, log as much evidence as possible. Keep any and all voice mails, letters, text messages, and anything else that will strengthen your case. If the come-on is in a media that can't be preserved (like a voice conversation), keep a journal of when it happened, exactly what he said, exactly what you said, and any "consequences" after you denied him.

The reason for this is so your story is believable. A fact of life that I have learned is that no matter who you are dealing with from a friend to an IRS agent, if you make it easy to believe your story, people will believe you.

Gather what you have or wait to document a few weeks worth of evidence. I would contact people in this order to try and preserve your job:

1. Contact your boss's supervisor. Most companies have a zero tolerance policy for sexual harassment. If you are interested in maintaining your employment there, contact your boss's boss and give them a chance to straighten things out. Keep maintaining your logs as to when you spoke with them and what happens afterward. If the case goes to court in the end, it is best to journal how you feel when your boss makes a pass at you, when he is mean to you afterward, and when you are treated unfairly. This can be worth big bucks in court later. The more pain you document, the more money the case may be worth.

2. If the boss's boss doesn't listen, go to the HR department. If you take your notes to them, they will listen. Inform them you have tried to handle it within your organization. That is because a sexual harassment suit can be very spendy for the company. Remember to keep up your documentation (who, what, where, when, and what happened).

3. If for some reason human resources doesn't listen, I would contact either the Department of Labor for your state or the US Equal Employment Opportyunity Comission (http://www.eeoc.gov/). If you are looking to maintain your job, contact the DOL first. If you want to really piss some people off, I would opt for talking to the EEOC. Thje EEOC is a federal agency and if they act on your complaint, the company will come under federal investigation. The EEOC is kind if like a mediator. They try and solve the issue. If the issue can't be solved and the EEOC says you are in the right, I believe they will give you the OK to sue the company in federal court (it's been awhile since I've been in HR...not 100% certain on that). Remember...maintain your notebook. I would consider seeking legal advice at the beginning of this step if you intend on taking legal action. If you plan on taking legal action, engage the services of a lawyer as soon as possible as the simplist of things can really screw up a case.

4. If you have not done so already, consult a lawyer. See what they have to say. Bring your notebook and keep logging your actions and reactions.

5. Quit and get on with your life. A job is just a job. If your job makes you miserable, it isn't worth it.

If what you say is happening is really happening, I think you have a strong case and are being treated unfairly. It does sound like you need to grow up a bit though. I'm sure being denied a cigarette break kind of pisses you off (I used to smoke myself) and makes you feel like crap given the circumstances, but that is kind of a petty issue. Pick your battles. Let the small things go (still document though). You'll potentially need the energy for the big battles.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

You may have a case for job sexual harassment. While it is not illegal for your boss to indicate that he is interested in you romantically, he crossed the line when he indicated that 'you are now in his bad books'.

At that point, he indicated that you were different from other staff which were NOT in his 'bad books'. If you wish to pursue the issue, contact the EEOC in your area to file a complaint. If you do not wish to make a legal issue out of it, I suggest that you leave his employ as soon as possible and find other work.

Answer 4

well if you want to take it further go seek proffesional help, maybe at a citizens advice beureau, you will need proof of what has been going on and perhaps someone to back you up.

I'm not sure if you will have enough evidence to do anything though.

Answer 5

Have you kept the texts etc? Gather together as much evidence as possible and go to court claiming constructive dismissal due to sexual harassment.

Answer 6

first do not go back there its to uncomfortable. file unemployment if available(USA) it should be. i agree with others save all conversational information. write it down now if not done already. as he will probably give bad ref. you need a few friends that could call for you maybe on recorded (if legal) speakerphone, to check his refs. on you before you go ruining chances at other employment for junky comments. if he does give junky ref. call him to advise to cease immediately, don't tell him friends called for you. if he doesn't, you should definitely call an atty.

Answer 7

this is sounding like sexual harassment and bullying, i would seek advice from citizens advice beareu. you should not be made to fel like this in the work place, there are laws in place to protect you from dscrimination like this. good luck x

Answer 8

You should leave right away.
Tell him that if he cant respect you that you wont work for him.
Go find a cool job somewhere else.
And quit smoking.

Answer 9

You are going to have to find another job. Don't mention this situation in your future interviews. If you do, they might think that you created it, even if you didn't.

Answer 10

I would leave quickly and get another job. Good luck.