I have a question to see what others think about this situation. I met this young lady and we both seemed to have hit it off. BUT, apparantly the way I feel about here isn't the way she feels about me. Recently, she text messages me that she went out for a bike ride to work up a sweat and then she wrapped herself in one of those blankets that basically makes you sweat to lose weight, she really has no reason to do this because she's absolutly perfect. SO, I ask why? And she tells me her boyfriend (1st I heard of this) keeps talking about his ex to the point that she feels inadequate. Finally I spilled my guts and told her that he was no good and it isn't a good sign that he keeps talking about his ex constantly. My question is this, is she headed for a broken heart? Should I tell her how I really feel about her or is that not right? I think if you talk about your ex constantly it means that new person is second best...am I right or should I just keep my mouth shut?
2007-06-15 11:56:36 · 11 answers · asked by Steve M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just a quick update and I think I was a bit vague about this and that is the "ex" her boyfriend keeps talking about is his ex-fiance. That's what worries me most about this and no the last thing I want to do is sabotage anyone's relationship. But, the fact that he constantly talks (at least according to the text I got from her) about his ex-finace has me worried that she will end up with a broken heart from this guy. An ex-gf is one thing but an ex-fiance is quite another thing to talk about.
2007-06-16 09:58:15 · update #1
She may be headed for a broken heart, but that is her mistake to make. The best thing you can do right now is to let her know that you are her freind and will be around for her. You never know what may develope from there.......
2007-06-15 12:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by free2bejewel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep your mouth shut and find a chick without a BF...
If she breaks up with her BF for you there is something you should know...This girl can't be alone! She moves from one relationship to the next without hindsight in some sick cycle that doesn't get corrected unless she realizes this about herself...she will in time do the same thing to you...you'll be together and she'll tell her guy "Friend" all the crap she doesn't like about you then he'll do the same thing you are about to do to her current BF... Trust me on this one stay away! Plus, it obvious she has no sense of self worth ..otherwise she would be secure enough to tell her BF to stop talking about his ex rather than try to be more like her...RUN!!!
2007-06-15 19:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by Dave B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she thinks of you as a friend more than a love interest. I think you have to be careful with this one. She's still hung up on this other guy. If you're really interested in her, you might stick around for when she really needs you as a friend first and possibly a romantic interest at a later time. She'd only be on the rebound right now.
2007-06-15 19:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mnt_MM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to weigh out the pros and cons. now you can tell her how you feel and that her bf is no good, but here is the down side. if she is wrapped up in him then she might make excuses for it. really it depends on how long they have been together and how much she is into him. she most likely is in for heart break if her man is constantly talking about his ex, she has to be the one to say your with me not her and why is she your ex being that that is all you talk about.
unfortunately for you your in that weird awkward spot. don't let yourself get too involved to where you are hurting yourself. also you have to be careful of her too because she wasn't honest about her bf with you from the start. and that's not fair to you cause now you have feelings and she is taken. i wish you luck
2007-06-15 19:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by urasexy1too 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think she is going to get her heart broken except i was like the her boyfriend i kept talkin about my ex because i still liked him and i ended up not talkin to the guy i was talkin to because i couldnt stop and thinkin about my ex so maybe you should tell her one more time because if he does break ur heart atleast u could say u tried and u obviously care for her. After that i wouldnt say anythin anymore because shes going to think that u r just tryin to sabotage her relationship to get with her.
2007-06-15 19:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that she talks about the poor treatment her ex handed out to her to see how you feel about it. She may be trying to see if you think it was as bad as she does. If so, then perhaps she will be more able to trust you.
While talking about him is not too cool, I think she is running a comparison here.
It is possible that she is trying to see if you would treat her better than he did.
Once burned, twice shy!
2007-06-15 19:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by Rhiannon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do that because you care, you did it because you want them to break up so you can go for it. If you really think that what he's doing is wrong, then just be there for her through the end of that horrible relationship and she'll see how you really care for her.
2007-06-15 19:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear stevie morreno
there comes a time in a mans life when he has to consider whether he is going to live by the sword of fortune or the shield of purity. whether to live in a divine cage clinging to moments that have passed or to hold tight to the belief that liberty is a golden sparrow and that every man should protect it with his heart and soul because freedom is a precious thing and to suffer the stone walls of defeat is to throw away the one precious part of ones soul and that is a trail only a steel hearted traveler should take.
2007-06-15 19:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by don 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. The other guy is a moron for constantly bringing up his last or best. If he can't move on, she should.
2. If she's not happy with him, let her know you know someone who would like the priviledge of dating her. If she still wants him, stand by as a friend.
2007-06-15 19:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what can it hurt if you tell her how u feel about her? Dont go putting down her bf tho, she may not like that, but as far as letting her know you like her-go for it
2007-06-15 18:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by Always PO'd 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋