do you buy your ex a father's day gift for your child to give him or do you leave it up to his current wife

Answer 1

Well, considering the fact that his current wife is not your child's birth parent, I would say that it is your responsibility. You are responsible for teaching them morals and values....being mature enough to assist them in buying their father's gift shows a lot of character in you, and a value that will be instilled in your child. It shouldn't be about whether or not they did or would do the same for you. Remember, it's not about you and your feelings, it's about teaching your child the joy that can be felt from giving. 'tis far better to give than to receive.

Good Luck!! =)

Answer 2

if his current wife does and involves the children - leave it there - but if she treats your children differently, buys without their input or doesn't buy at all - I'd take your children out and let them pick out something small ($10 - 15) but special because they picked it out for their father so that the day is special for them - if they have nothing for their father they will feel bad and you don't want to do that to them. Put aside the differences and put the kids first. Also in addition to the gift - help them make a happy fathers day card if they haven't done one in school. I know sometimes if there are issues between the parents this is tough - but again this person is 1/2 of your children and if you show them you hate / dislike this person - you're saying (without meaning to ) i dislike 1/2 of who you are too...
Again - put the kids first.

Answer 3

I've been divorced for 4 years. My daughter is 5. My ex lives out of state. My daughter is going this weekend to see him for Father's Day. A couple of weeks ago when my daughter and I were at a craft fair, I saw a pillow that was the football team he likes. It only cost $5. I pointed out the pillow to my daughter and said something like, "Look, would you like to get that for Daddy for Father's Day?" She said yes and I bought it. My ex lives with the girlfriend he was cheating on me with when we were married. He and I do not have a good relationship, but we hardly ever talk on the phone. He goes the entire 4 weeks in between visits without one phone call to her. I do these things to 1) show my daughter what is right morally and 2) to try to maintain the cordial relationship he and I have. His girlfriend surely got him something for Father's Day, but I also know that my daughter is thrilled to have something to give him herself. As she gets older, I'm sure she will ask to do this herself and I have no problem spending a few dollars to help her do this. I want to show her how to treat people nicely.

Answer 4

Usually children have an allowance, even small children get handed a buck or two. If he or she decides that the dollar or so should go towards a father's day gift or card, let them do it. It is their choice to buy a gift for their father or spend it on a toy instead. even if you despise the guy, you will know it was their allowance, and the child will save face by not going empty handed.

Answer 5

i bought my son a gift and a card to give him. it's about the child not the parent

Answer 6

Depends on the relationship you have with him. If you ended on good terms and still like and respect each other, it would be a nice thing to do for him...if not, then leave it up to the new wife....

also...did he do the same for you on mothers day?

Answer 7

How old is your son? I would ask your son what he would like to get or make his Dad. Don't make it about you or the other wife. Put the focus on the Son and Father.

Answer 8

I would think that if the child were old enough you could take him/her shopping to pick something out if he lives w/ you, but not if he/she is really young. If he/she lives w/ his/her father, then that would naturally be left up to the stepmother at any age.

Answer 9

I leave it up to his current wife.

Answer 10

its YOUR child, you should do it, how old is your child, ask what the child would like to do