I met her at my gym and been on a few dates.She seems nice and shes not a troll.But all my friends said there must be something wrong with her if shes that old with no children and never married.What would you guys think about dating someone like this?
2007-06-15 11:25:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Maybe it would have been strange a few decades ago - but people today are waiting longer, especially women because of the education and career options available now. It is better to wait and settle down after you've accomplished your other goals - I know too many people who complain that having kids or getting married too young held them back. As long as she lives on her own (meaning not with mom or dad at age 38), I would say she just wants to find the person who fits in her life just right, rather than settling for just anyone.
Keep dating her.
2007-06-15 11:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by DSL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know everyone here is disagreeing, but I think your friends may have a point. You are quite right to be concerned. I think reaching the age of 38 and unmarried with no kids is quite unusual, and would raise a few questions. It really depends - has she been in a long term relationship? If the answer to that is no, I would be very cautious. There is obviously a reason why this woman has never settled down, and you might want to find that out.
I know I'll probably get thumbs down for this, but I know that if I wound up single again (I am 32, married with 2 kids) and met a man of that age who had never been married or had kids, I would run a mile. It tells me that he is not the marrying type, and also that there must be something wrong with him. It's just human nature. You want someone that seems a good prospect. If this person has been rejected by everyone else, they lose some of their appeal, because there has to be a reason for that.
2007-06-15 11:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by helly 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I just got married three years ago (I'm a woman) after twenty years of dating. I had several long term relationships, but never felt that any one of them was quite right for me. I like to travel, like to move around, and didn't meet anyone else who wanted that lifestyle. I don't think there's anything wrong with me, I'm just not the type to settle down and stay in one place. I never had kids, and I don't miss it.
I have a blog at http://every-man.blogspot.com/ if you'd like to read more about what women are looking for.
2007-06-17 11:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you think that there's something wrong with her?!?! Maybe she was focused with her education and career first. Maybe she's been dating losers and decided not to fall into the "I'm going to get married because all my friends have" trap like so many women do (and end up divorced). Thank your luck stars that she dresses nice, and she's not a "troll" as you put it.
2007-06-15 11:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by italiangirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that she knows what she wants in life and has it together. If she had 3 kids with 3 different dad and had 2 divorces or something, than I would wonder what is wrong with her.
2007-06-15 11:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I defintely think there's something wrong with her. I dated a 38 year old man who has never married and has no kids. I was the first woman he had dated in 11 months. His longest realtionship ever was less than a year. Our relationship didn't last long. He's a very good-looking guy. But someone that old, never married and no kids, something is wrong in my opinion. Although if she's had other long term relationships, maybe she just hasn't found the right one.
2007-06-15 16:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by gbwoman79 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Hey now, im 33 and no kids and just got married 3 months ago, so im not a troll. she may not want kids or may not be able to have kids and she may be looking for her prince-you never know, just ask her what's been going on in your head.
2007-06-15 11:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are just unhappy that you've changed. If you like the woman, then keep dating her. I know lots of women her age and younger who have seen so many divorces that they've been hesitate to commit to a man. It doesn't mean she's weird - it just means she can see what's going on around her.
2007-06-15 11:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with her at all , maybe she concentrated on her career family or travelling
why are you listening to your friends, maybe they dont want you to leave them and go off with this woman , maybe they are jelaous of your friendship with her
she is still young enough to have a baby and get married , enjoy your romance
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2007-06-15 11:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by Karl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not everyone wants kids
2007-06-18 22:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋