I've been dating(3 weeks) this 38 yr old women who has never been married with no kids. Do you find this weird

Question

I met her at my gym and been on a few dates.She seems nice and shes not a troll.But all my friends said there must be something wrong with her if shes that old with no children and never married.What would you guys think about dating someone like this?

Answer 1

Not at all.

Answer 2

I think that's a horrible thing to say or think and if you need validation from your friends on whether or not you should be w/ this perfectly nice woman, then you're a chump. The fact is more and more people are waiting til they are older to get married. Women aren't dependent on men for financial support and are often career-driven. There's nothing wrong w/ that. I think the only thing that will tell the truth is TIME. You'll figure her out after a few months of dating. I'm guessing it's one of the following 1) she has commitment issues, 2) she's just very independent & has been focused on her career and has only met guys like you who think there's something wrong w/ her for not being married, 3) she just hasn't met the right guy! Women have the opportunity to be picky now! They don't have to get married. Step outta the stone ages sweetie. Give this nice woman a chance and you may find the woman of your dreams.

Answer 3

I live in the south, and everyone I know says that if a woman makes it past 30 and she's never been married and doesn't have any kids there is something wrong with her. Personally I think it comes down to personal opinion. Maybe when she was younger she wanted to focus on her career more than to have a family. If that is the case she might be in a rush to get married soon and have kids. Or maybe she just doesn't or didn't want to get married and have kids. Statistically speaking fewer and fewer women are getting married now.

Answer 4

Please do not refer to a lady as "something like this". It's rude and uncalled for from a gentlemen like you. Having said that, there is nothing wrong with the lady being 38 years young, not married and having no children. I would rather date that kind of a woman than one who's warmed every available man's bed, procreated with every Tom, Harry and Dick on her wake, has a chain of marital bondage and a huge motherhen baggage on her lap. Your situation also depends on your age as compared to her 38, your social and economic status as compared to hers and your personal love affair preferences. I will not know why a lady would still be single at 38 but one appreciated fact is that career oriented women take longer to get attached and start families. The other positive aspect is that most career oriented women are definitely not pushovers, meaning you have many qualities in this lady's favor other men who may have tried to pick on her don't have. You say she's good and not a troll. If that is an informed assessment, don't listen to your friends, they may be jealousy. But remember, 3 weeks is a very short time to know a person well enough.

Answer 5

All I have to say is that I'm 41, no kids and never been married (altho' I am getting married in September). I was never interested in having kids - I love all my nieces and nephews, but never wanted any myself, and marriage was never a priority in my life. I wanted a career and to be able to support myself before I committed to someone else in my 20's, and I'm totally fortunate that I waited. I met the perfect guy when I was 35 and we've been together ever since!

Answer 6

I know pleanty of women who are in there 30's and have never been married. Alot of women now are shoosing to start a carreer and find themselfs before settleing down which i think is great.

There is a reason why 50% of all marriages end in divorce, it's far better to be older and know what you want then to marry young and get divorced. Consider her a smart women and be happy you found her.

Answer 7

I think your friends are the wierd ones to assume there is something wrong with her. Maybe she takes marriage very seriously and has never met anyone she wanted to spend her life with. What's wrong with that. If she had been married and had kids your friends would probably then be saying there must be something wrong with her if she is divorced, or would be telling you she is only looking for someone to take care of her and her kids. Maybe you'll be the one to convince her to get married. Ignore your friends.

Answer 8

It is a bit unusual in this day and age, yes. But I wouldn't push the issue, especially if you are going to keep it casual and not get serious. If the relationship does get serious and you two contemplate marriage at some point then, yes, it is worth asking about. But I wouldn't push for answers too quickly. She will explain if and when she is ready to do so. Maybe she miscarried at some point and "didn't want" to get pregnant again. Maybe she was engaged and the breakup was traumatic so she was afraid to go there again. You never know and you probably shouldn't make assumptions until she is ready to share further with you. If you push the issue, you might also push her away.

Answer 9

I think most people would be GRATEFUL that she didn't have any baggage! Stop looking a gift horse in the mouth. If she doesn't give you any reason to think that there is anything wrong, stop worrying about it.

My dear friend is getting married this July. He is 38 and has had only one other relationship in his life. He is marrying a 42 year old virgin. How about them apples?

Answer 10

There's nothing wrong with her. I'm assuming you're around the same age. Have you ever been married? Do you have kids? Maybe there's something wrong with you. I think there's definitely something wrong with you if you're a grown adult and you're still listening to what your friends say is right and wrong. Don't you have a mind of your own? Grow up.

Answer 11

Maybe she is a woman who doesn't want kids or who has never found the right person sometimes it happens I am 26 I married a 36 year old man who has never been married and has no kids.