I'm a shy person. I always worry about being "presentable" in public ... I'm not a vain person at all, it's just that I worry about small things at the wrong times. I get really nervous in big public areas when I'm being stared at for example. I don't have an anxiety attack or anything, I just feel uncomfortable and don't know how to react.
2007-06-15 11:19:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Well, your avatar is pretty cute. Go into a situation knowing that and nothing can harm you.
2007-06-15 11:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wise person fears the consequences of following a wrong course. Therefore, he is cautious and appreciates any counsel that helps him to avoid badness. The stupid one does not have such fear. Being self-confident, he arrogantly ignores the counsel of others.
(Proverbs 14:16) . . .The wise one fears and is turning away from badness, but the stupid is becoming furious and self-confident.
What you have is a very healthy disposition, don't ever loose it.
I would suggest that you study the Holy bible, and ask questions with someone that knows where to look so you can get the answers that give you the right kind of Confidence you are looking for.
For example what is your hope about living a long life? Do you want to live here on earth? You see Jesus said you could? see Mathew 5:5 and his forefather King David said you could? see Psalms 37:9-11,29
The start of wisdom would be to do what John 17:3 says. If i can help you in any way just ask?
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2007-06-15 18:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by gem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might start by observing others who you think are comfortable and self confident.
Then begin rehearsing scenarios in your mind.
If you aren't perfect in social situations, don't worry, none of us is perfect.
When you relive your supposed misdeeds, have another message ready to replace it.
For example, if you think "Oh I really blew it, that was a stupid remark" replace the thought with "I did this or that well."
It sounds like you worry what people think about you. Practice affirming yourself many times a day.
I am a nice and kind person. I belong here. I enjoy the company of other people.
Make up some affirmations of your own.
2007-06-15 18:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Linda R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should look at yourself in the mirror for five whole minutes every day and say there is nothing out of place and I look fine. Practice doing things that may make you uncomfortable in public in front of a mirror...like eating, or bending over to pick something up. U'll realize that you look normal. Oh and be sure to buy clothes that you feel comfy in!!! and carry sun glasses with you in your purse so that when you can't handle it you can hide away.
2007-06-15 18:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by The thinker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get more practice. Move a lot in public. If it's difficult at the start, try to join a small group of friends and go out with them. But don't hide at home or at work.
2007-06-15 18:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by NaturalBornKieler 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you could do ( i have no idea if it helps ) is this.
When someone stares at you
stare back / ask what the person is staring at / make some comment on the staring / make a funny face to the other .
Do something so that the other person knows that you have noticed that you were stared at.
If you do that there will be a reaction and that make feel you more confortable then since the magic of the staring person is reduced to something ordinal
2007-06-15 18:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by gjmb1960 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same way.
sometimes ill force myself into situations. go to parties i dont want to or get togethers that i know ill feel uncomftorable at. i dont always feel comftorable but im trying to better myself...so i think ive come along pretty good.
just keep going to social gatherings. focus on people or conversations. dont try to take in the whole room. stick to a few people or a specific place.
try to get your mid off of the feeling and onto something thatll take your mind away.
but youre goign to have to put yourself out there if you want to overcome it. you dont have to be the life of the party but you DO have to be a part of it.
take pictures...that might work. you can go in and out of groups and no one will look at you funny.
good luck!
2007-06-15 18:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by johnny.zondo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop caring. You're respecting other people in the extreme... They're not really better than you. I don't say become rude, but just recognize how wrong everybody's opinions are, and stop caring so much.
2007-06-15 18:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by Bravo-Alpha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry im the excat some way but i got over it. all you have to do is be your self and not care what people think and you will probly grow out of it.
2007-06-15 18:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by cartman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my suggestion is to start loving yourself the way God loves you (unconditionly) when you see yourself as God sees you, God sees you as a very unique person and made you in a special way! you start forgetting what others think of you, your confidence will start growing and you will actually begin to attract others to like you!!!
remember,, think positive,, you are what you think you are!!!
2007-06-17 07:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by Dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋