My friend is going crazy cutting herself and getting close to suicide, what do I do?

Question

I can't tell her parents and she just got out of the psych ward two weeks ago for this, she's dumping her anger on Johnny and I'm standing on the side saying stop.

Her parent's are a problem. They said many times they don't care for her and have threatened to send her to a foster home.

Answer 1

Some people who are "cutters" feel that when they cut them selves that it is a release and to them it feels as if it is, but your friend doesn't sound like that...silly as it seems ask her why she cuts herself? and what does she fell afterwards? listen to her you'll need the facts to make your case, you'll have to sort between whats fact and whats opinion(this way your unbias as possible) i know it sounds creepy but see what she says.... to me she wants some one to talk to with out just having to ask for some one to listen, at times people feel they ask too much of their friends and can't go to their parents because they don't understand them so they try to make due on there own and end up worst then when they started...my friend became a cutter after his ex broke up with him ..I found out and sat him down in a cafe i asked him why he cut him self he said it took away from the pain of seeing her and what she did to him (she was his first and cheated on him twice then publicly embrassed him in front of mutual friends neither time i was there)....then i grabbed his wrist and said what do you feel now....he flinched it hurt!! i told him in life things hurt and sometimes lessons come with pain. i told him he traded one pain with another and that rather digest what he learned he chose to over look it for what he believed was still there and that there was a difference in what we chose to believe and what's remains to be fact. i told him he was a good guy and crap happens to every one and today was his day and tomorrow would be his day if he let it , i said life goes on and so will you if this happens think of all the crap that could be worst (his mother was sick before) he stood threw that and we could get threw this ..i sat there and reminded him about the person he is and why he matters and that the things he did that he thought was sparing people actually hurt us (every day you walk out the door, you walk with your friends behind you and your family , when you hurt ,we know we feel ,and we hurt, do whats right by you and you do whats right by us :) and for about a week we went out to the movies, for walks and every day i just listen to him talk and now he is happy and slappy just like before ^__^

Answer 2

I would say go to a trusted adult. I know that that is hard because you might look like a tattle tale or something. And she is probably to young and seems a bit to immature to understand that's what a good friend would do. But it might be her only chance at help. Her behavior is very unacceptable, unbalance an dangerous. She sounds like she has some really serious issues she needs help with and might need professional help of some kind. Try not to judge her as something must have happened in her life to make her do these kinds of things. A bad home life or a traumatic experience of some kind that she is uncomfortable talking about and instead is acting out on. She also has classic tells of attention getting behavior. Whatever you do don't get sucked into acting this way. You sound like your a good friend though or trying to be. Good luck.

Answer 3

If she's been in a psyche ward and she
is underage, than her parents already know. If she is an adult, you MUST tell her parents, so they can get help themselves in order to help her.

I know you might be thinking a psyche ward is bad, but her other options are worse. And you never said who Johnny is...

My daughter did the same thing when her dad and I were divorcing. (BTW divorce causes much of these probs with our teens.... pls. keep that in mind.)

Basically cutting is her ability to scream when no one is listening to her. Her cutsd mean: HEAR MY PAIN! SEE MY PAIN!

If you are a minor, I know you want to help her, but you, in reality, cannot do much. She needs to get away from whatever it is that is bugging her- most likely parents or homelife.

I know mental health places aren't great, but she can really get much happier there than at her current place.

TRUST ME! I'm a parent who's been there! My daughter is doing okay now!

You seem to be a really good friend, good luck!

Answer 4

Why would you not tell her parents? She probably means the most to them in the whole world. I went through a phase like your friend in high school and my parents kept sticking me into the hospital so that I don't hurt myself, and I am so glad they did (though I hated them and everyone then, my life turned out so, so good).

Answer 5

you need to about it and then go to a professional likechool counsoler or someone older that can guide her.if her parents are that bad a foster home may be better for her to rely help her with her troubles before she does cut real bad or kill herself.there is also support groups that she can attend to help her with it.she just has to contact the local mental health and ask about the support.

Answer 6

You need to inform someone if not her parents; obviously they are not stable enough to raise a child. Tell your parents or a counselor at school, but someone needs to know before she seriously hurts herself.

Answer 7

Next time she cuts herself call 911 and they'll probably hold her for at least 72 hours and get her some help.

Answer 8

You should tell ur parents and ask them to find her help,or call a hotline,and you can tell how much she means to you and that you dont want to lose one of your good friends and tell that she is LOVED.

Answer 9

If you can't tell her parents, tell another trusted adult. She obviously needs more help than she has gotten. I urge you to tell someone soon though.

Answer 10

There must be some other adult in her life who can help her. Or even someone in your life that you trust might be able to help her.