i met this guy on a cruise. it was a 9 day cruise. we hung out the 1st 2nd 3rd in a group, and then the 4th we got time alone. we spent the entire night talking to eachother and at the end of the night we hooked up, and he slept over that night and layed with me..before we even hooked up he asked if the next night we would hang out. the next night he was in the casino and my friend went to go get him so we could hang out.
he was winning money, and he said hed come soon, and he did. he came to my room and we started hooking up a little, and then he asked me if i wanted to go to his room. i did, so we went and we were talking about how he won money and then we were hooking up and he did everything to me, and then we had sex in the moment. it was really cute, and hes such a sweet guy. my skirt was all messed up so he gave me pants to wear and he walked me to my room, and we were gonna go in but then we decided to go to the casino. we went to the casino, and then i said i was gonna leave cause i was really tired. he said he would come back to the room later, and he did..to sleepover and lay with me. the 6th night he then came looking for me to hangout but things got messed up and he thought i was with another guy. he was mad for the 6th and 7th nights, and the 8th night he confronted me about it. we then hung out the entire night and talked with my best friend and this other guy, who he happened to not like at all. at the end of the night, we had sex again and this time he was constantly asking me if i was alright, and to tell him when to stop and if it hurts. he slept over again that night, and the last night we hung out the whole time me, my best friend, and him, and then he left and gave me a kiss goodbye.
he contacted me right after the cruise
and now we've been in contact for 9 months
we've seen eachother twice since the cruise, and nothing has happened. i happen to be going to college near where he lives in 3 months, and recently we were on the phone and he said "you never write me anymore..let's keep this long distance relationship going." there are also no other girls in the picture right now.
1. has he just been holding onto me for 9 months so far just for sex in college or does he like me a lot?
2. did he use me at all and then begin to like me?
2007-06-15 09:56:09 · 8 answers · asked by angela r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have asked this question now FIVE times...... Did you not like the others answers???? I have heard this same story before through another name too..........
Don't have sex with people you do not know. Don't hook up with someone before you get to know them as friends first, more than a week. Really get to know someone. Find out if you have anything in common. Don't jump into things like sex as your emotions get involved and most of the time, the guy only wants sex and will say anything to get it. He would probably hook up again with you just for the sex.
Hold off on the sex and get to really know him and see if you have anything in common. Be honest and communicate with HIM.
2007-06-15 10:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone holds onto a long distance relationship for 9 months in the hopes they can get sex when they want later on down the road! From the sounds of it, he really likes you....and although it's hard to tell at first whether some one is using you and then begins to like you, I would say that he probably liked you....if he was using you, I don't think he would have waited til the 4th night....I'm sure, as on any cruise if he wanted to use someone that he was probably never going to see again that he would have been able to do that on the first night! Relax, you never know, this may turn out to be a long term relationship!
2007-06-15 10:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.
It's hard to tell what's going on in his mind. You had sex the first night you were together and practically every night after that on the cruise.
When you say that "nothing has happened" when you saw him on the two occasions, does that mean you didn't have sex?
If you like this guy, keep in contact with him and give the relationship a chance. That means things should happen like dates and conversations and such. If you two just "hook up", then there is no relationship.
2007-06-15 10:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. No, I don't think he was jus holding onto you for sex, seeing that there is distance, he could get sex somewhere closer to where he is, he must really care for you to still be with you 9 months later.
2. I don't think he used you, what guy that would use you for 'just sex' stick around 9 months later and your not even in the same city???.....look at the clues, the dude likes you.
Stay Positive
2007-06-15 10:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no guy is going to hold onto a girl that long just so he can have sex in 9 months...unless he's a real loser.
obviously he likes you. whether or not he used you?...well, it takes 2 to tango and as you were one of them, maybe you should ask yourself if you were using him as well.
I think you should go slow and see where this takes you as he wouldn't still contact you if he didn't like you.
2007-06-15 10:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by Cdn Chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not using you and he seems head over heals for you! read what you wrote again lol..you shouldnt have any doubts..no guy keeps in contact with a girl this long just for a booty call he would have gotten bored already he really likes you
2007-06-15 10:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he liked you all along, but something happened after the cruise. im not saying theres another girl, but i would talk to him and catch up on things...hope it helped!!
lala <3
2007-06-15 10:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was urgent???
2007-06-15 09:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by vinster82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋