Okay my sister moved in with my parents my brother and I. and now we r having problems she is 20yrs old and she isn't here most of the time and my mom wants her to pay rent and my dad is going easy with it and they r always yelling at each other and my sister is complaining to my dad about me and how me and her boy friend r always messing around trying to pin each other down and hitting each other a lot and I told her a billion and one times i dont like him like that he is nice but to shallow and to preppy and I hate guys like that and plus im just gettin over a guy so what should I do????
2007-06-15 09:51:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should not play with her boyfriend if you do not like him. If he tries, tell him to leave you alone, or you will tell your sister. You could stop for respect of your sister's wishes. Tell him to do the same.
Your sister is insecure. I agree with your mother that she should pay rent since she is an adult and would pay rent anywhere else. Your Dad should stand up for your mother. Your sister needs to move back out and get her own place. Does she have a job?
2007-06-15 09:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, I really think you should sit you parents down and tell them how all of this makes you feel. Clearly they're too busy arguing about your sister to realize what this situation is doing to you, that's not good. I think if you have a heart to heart with them, a lot of the fighting would stop, I mean the last thing "real" parents want to do is hurt their children, in any way. As far as your sister, I don't think there is anything you can do about her living with you guys, your folks pay the bills ya know. On a more serious tip, baby girl, I don't care if your sister's bf was the ugliest man on the planet, there should be no pinning, hitting, NOTHING of that nature going on between you two. All this playing around with your sister's bf will do nothing but create MORE tension between you and your sister feel me. I know you probably mean well, but hey, if you love your sister, use some common sense and leave what's her's alone. It won't matter if you told her a billion and 1 times, physical contact like that between her sister and bf is a NO NO!!!!!, and anyone will tell you the same.
Good Luck!!
2007-06-15 17:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by georgiaspeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The arguing is gonna happen, the family dynamic has changed..it will mellow out over time. But seriously, if alot of the tension is over you & her boyfriend wrestling, why are you still doing it? It's disrespectful. What really bothers me is the fact that it sounds like he's at least 20 and I'm guessing you're under 18 at least since you didn't say anything about paying rent. So why is this grown man playing around & wrestling with you? Stay away from him. It can only make things better.
2007-06-15 18:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by madame_emperess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do. It's your parents responsibility to make sure she pays rent and acts appropriate. Just remember that just because she's behaving like this, doesn't mean that you're doing anything wrong. She's the one with the problem. I have little sisters and I love it when my husband plays and jokes with them. You really don't have anything to worry about, unless she's getting you into trouble. And if she is, just sit down with your dad and explain that you don't like her boyfriend, but that he is a friend. And let her know that if she doesn't want you to be friends with her boyfriends, then she shouldn't bring them around.
2007-06-15 16:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop wrestling with your sister boy friend. Your sister sounds like she jealous. Its hard when you have an older brother or sister move back home. She should pay rent to help out the house old. just try to get along..
2007-06-15 16:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by Holiday 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly speaking, it is very difficult to solve family matters, she might just be in a stage where she doesnt realy know what she realy wants and trying to find who she is, therefore she feeds of treating all of you guys badly. I just lost a brother a couple of months ago and it was the most painfull thing that can happen to me, I started to realise how important every moment I spend with my family is, and the biggest challenge is to love them for their short comings cause that makes them who they are.What I am basically saying is deal with the situation genuinly if it means correcting her or hugging her do it from the heart and you wont regret it but most of all you will know that you are doing you best in the whole situation
2007-06-15 17:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by KG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your sister is having some major jealously issues and sounds like some insecuraties about herself as a girlfriend. I think what you need to do is sit your sister down and tell her one on one that you care about her and would never do something to hurt her. Her boyfriend is a nice guy, but you would never consider taking him from her. She needs to know that you can be trusted and if you guys are wrestling, it needs to stop so she knows that you are distancing yourself from her boyfriend and thinking of her first. If it helps, make her favorite treat as a bribe to listen. Hope this helps. :)
2007-06-15 16:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow draaama.
lets see if i can help. my sister is 30 and still lives with us. she does not pay a penny to live hear. sometimes ahe will by some groceries, other than that my parents never thought of asking her to pay. if ur sister thinks u like her boy friend then maybe she does not trust him. it is her problem.
2007-06-15 16:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by My point exactly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask me, you should at least try to deal with it and I'm not trying to be rude when I say this, but you just have to deal with it until you're sister leaves to go to college or when/if she gets her own house and job
2007-06-15 16:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should leave ur sister's boyfriend alone, how would u feel if she was pinning a boyfriend of urs down??
not good..thought so.
2007-06-15 16:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋