Hi,
I love a girl and she shows a lot of love for me. In fact she asked me out. But one thing that hurts me is that she has had with some guys in the past and has had some physical. She told me this when we started dating and told me that i'm telling you all this because I dont want anything to go wrong in the future. But knowing that she has been with someone in a physical relationship (and i know the guy) kinda hurts me alot. What do you think????
2007-06-15 09:45:53 · 13 answers · asked by alalalal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If this bugs you, date a different girl...
2007-06-17 18:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
True it does really hurt when you know that the person you love had physical relationship with someone else. However if you love her so much, her past or experience shouldn't matter you. I believe she loves you very much as she is being honest to you. In my opinion i think you shoulld not mind about her past and carry on dating with her. However the decision is always yours, other people can never make the decision for you, because they are not you. Anyway follow your feelings. Good luck.
2007-06-15 10:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you care for her then it shouldn't matter to you.
If however it bothers you that much then don't get together with her, since you will never be comfortable being around her. What you feel in your heart will show in your actions towards her, so that if it bothers you that much you may take it out on her.
Make sure that what ever you do that your fair with both you as well as with her. She was after all honest with you, then you should be honest with her as well as well as with your self. Do not get involved with her if you know that you can not handle the fact that she has been with others.
If you do decided to get involved with her then you must let go of her past, since that is what is right. She was after all honest with you enough to let you know about her self. So make sure that you do what is right for both of you. If you become involved then you should never bring up her past again to her, as that would never be right to do. If you can not forget her past then stay away from her and let her be, so that you will not hurt her.
Be at peace with what ever you decide.
2007-06-15 10:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's a little secret:
As you age, you will find that ALOT of girls have been with guys. More and more of them will have been sexually active as they grow up. You'll have to get used to it, or seek out a virgin (which may not be easy). The pool of women who "have" will get larger as you go.
I understand and appreciate your dilemma, but on the other hand, you may be eliminating relationships that had great potential.
I'm not making any commentary on it one way or the other, just stating facts.
2007-06-15 09:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kia A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u are absolutely rite, nowadays sex is so common and like everyone does it and its really hard to find a good person who hasnt done anything with someone else. and in ur case...im not sure but i think u shud ask urself if u love her and trust her, not all girls are good and if u no this girl has done stuff before then can u trust her? i mean u seem like u really like her and i wudnt want u to get hurt cuz of this girl...just think about whether she really does love u and whether she wud hurt u in the future...it wudnt b good if u go out with a girl that makes u feel bad about her past...
2007-06-15 09:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by maryam 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you reallly love her then things will stay in the past. Try to look at things for the future and not the past. and if you are planning to get physical with her have her in check with her doctor
2007-06-15 09:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Tanisha L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should get over it, and appreciate the fact that she was up front with you and let you know about it. It's something that happened in the past, and she's obviously over it, because she's with you. So don't worry about it.
2007-06-15 09:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by Xotchil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should not matter. If you love her you should be able to accept this. Every one has a past ans accepting this is all part of caring for someone.
2007-06-15 09:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by Ken R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a past. Even you. You can't hold it against her. It's not fair to be jealous of her past experiences. She's with you now. Have more confidence.
2007-06-15 09:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mean this was really before your time so there is nothing that you can do...you can basically except that she told you and get over it...she didnt have to tell you that just shows that she cares about you....the truth hurts but your life and relationship will go on...at least she did not hide it.......
2007-06-15 09:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by DiVa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you, find a girl who hasn't been physical with other guys.
2007-06-15 09:48:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋