So I have been dating my gf for a couple years now and the past week I thought that we should take our relationshi[ to the next level now that we graduated from high school. Right now shes staying home helping her mother whos physically ill and I'm working at Mcdonalds. I know we won't be the most affluent parents but we have all the love in the world for ur baby. Plus we need a baby einstien to get us good retirements. What r ur recomendations.
2007-06-15 09:42:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Love doesn't buy diapers. Get a dog.
2007-06-15 09:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married first. Get your own place. Get good jobs (yes, JOBS, both of you need one). And once you've got the money to be forking out hundreds of dollars per month to support the baby as well as pay all your bills and still be comfortable, then think about having a baby. The "next step" in a relationship such as this would be moving in together. The next one after that, marriage. Then worry about a baby. But right now, enjoy your teens and twenties. They'll never come again. Wait another couple of years before having a baby. That way you know things are going to last in the real world (The world outside of high school) before you bring a child into the mix.
2007-06-15 16:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Dani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinoin and my advice is please wait. I am 21 and 6 months pregnant with my first child. I have graduated college with my B.A and still attend college full time for a higher degree...I work full time and am now preparing to become a full time mother. Now I am not trying to be a hypocrite because I would not trade being pregnant for the world but I wish I was a little more prepared. Think of all the expenses you will need to be paying and honestly hun, working at mcdonalds and her not working at all is not going to cut it.
You have so much time do have a family, concentrate on each other. Consider college, traveling..enjoy life outside of high school!! And most imporantly make sure you two are ready to have kids together....my baby's father and I were together for a great 2 years...now we are not even on talking terms!
Again...my advice is to wait awhile...
Good luck
2007-06-15 17:48:41 · answer #3 · answered by oOoLaLaiTzSina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knock it off.
What is missing in your life that this appeals to you?
Instead of being another teen statistic, try this:
Get an education.
Develop same sex relationships-these will sustain you throughout your life.
Nurture a career-something you can call your own and be proud of
Get a dog form an animal shelter
Take up some hobbies-sports are good for your mind, body and self-esteem
When you are older: travel, party, go to concerts, find out what makes you, you.
Date. Date that guy. Get your heart broken. Then date this guy. Break up. Fall in love. Repeat.
When you are finished with all this, meet someone special, fall in love, marry, enjoy some time together and then you may start a family.
Good luck!
DN
2007-06-15 16:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
A new baby, an extension of your love always sounds so great. Happy and in love I can see both of you wanting that. But my recommendation is wait. Babies are hard work and require so much, with your girl friends Mom ill I am sure it requires a lot of her attention now, with a new baby she will have to choose at times. I think you would be a lot of help but with you working full time it will be hard on both of you.
2007-06-15 16:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by hootie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too young an inexperienced, go to college, get a decent job so you can support your future wife and kid (once you get married, maybe 4 or 5 years from now). A baby is a lot of responsibility, and it takes away a lot of your time, and freedom, you have to be ready, so don't rush and enjoy life for now.
2007-06-15 16:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by Slick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married first its simply the right thing to do. If you wait untill you have enough money to have a baby you'l never have one things always work out, if you want a baby just to hang on to the relationship, and believe me people do it for that reason then forget it. My three children are grown and it has benn a wonderful life with them I can't imagine them not being in it. Blessings to you.
2007-06-15 17:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Patricia S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you should not do it cause i am only 18 and i have a 2 months old lil girl and i am a single mom and it is hard doin school and working and takeing care of baby that is to much yeah they are cute but you have to think how much is every thing hospital bills and stuff for you baby that is just to much i say you guys wait and just have a dog or some thing and watch some ones kid and see if you can do it
2007-06-15 16:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know how much babies cost? Sweetie, you are gonna need more than a mickey d's salary! You are both young, and have your whole lives ahead of you, wait until you can get your lives together. Besides, how is she going to take care of her baby and her sick mom? these days, a double income household can barely pay bills and take care of children! Especially if you have no sort of college education, you are going to catch hell taking care of a kid!
Don't do it! Wait! Think it over!
2007-06-15 16:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by BRIDGETTE R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest reading "Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage,"
http://www.amazon.com/Promises-Can-Keep-Motherhood-Marriage/dp/0520241134
http://www.ucpress.edu/books/pages/9733.html
and "No Shame in My Game: The Working Poor in the Inner City"
http://www.amazon.com/No-Shame-My-Game-Working/dp/0375703799/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/002-2563951-9840824?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1181940753&sr=1-1
for an idea of your real life, not just the 'and we'll live off love' fantasy one.
If you want to 'take your relationship to the next level,' get married. Your child born out of wedlock will have a one in six chance of you and his mum actually marrying someday -- lousy odds are not really what you want in a relationship, surely?
2007-06-15 16:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never have had a girlfriend, and you are already talking about having a baby just out of High school!!! Why don't you wait until You are mature enough and ready?
2007-06-15 16:54:28 · answer #11 · answered by Ryan H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋