I have been seeing this guy for a few weeks now. At one point he told me he was breaking it off with another girl, but he wanted me to know. After it happend he admitted he lied to her. Another night I was there and I found a toothbrush in his drawer, I asked whose it was and he said "I do not know!" I mean really, you live alone and you do not know whose pink toothbrush that is? A couple weeks ago we were supposed to get together. He blew me off till the last minute. Then sent a text saying he was sorry and that he would make it up to me. We have since worked through the whole last minute thing. Since then though I am worried he will do it again, and I just do not want to be disappointed. And I am having trouble trusting him. I think the worst part is even if he was seeing someone else that is ok, we are not exclusive, its the lie that bothers me. How and What do I say to talk about the trust issue I have? Or do I just break it off?
2007-06-15 09:20:49 · 16 answers · asked by hougie21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are "supposed" to get together tommorow. Do you think I should wait till I see him, or call him to discuss it?
2007-06-15 09:30:08 · update #1
Lets put this in another perspective. Youre seeing a boy that is seeing someone else. He admitted to lying to her and told you about it. He is cheating on her...with you...and you caught him in a lie?
So,..he lies,...and cheats...and lies about cheating. Are you picking up on a pattern here? I couldnt get out of the door quick enough if I were you
2007-06-15 09:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by kajun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he was dating both of you at the same time, hope you have had safe sex, if not you were sleeping with her also! Why? When he is sleeping with her, he comes to you and then he gives what ever she gave him to you, so in a sense, you are all sleeping together.
I do not get it, you knew he was dating her and so that is what happens when a guy is dating two women, he brings her pink toothbrush home with him, he has got his hands full and you know it, so why are you getting mad?
He blew you off because at the last minute he got a call from "her".
He will do it again, as long as he is seeing "her". Sorry to say, you will be disappointed because he will do it again.
Why are you having trouble trusting him, you knew he was seeing her when he had you on the side, you need to get your morals straight, and start seeing only ONE guy.
Oh, come on, you are exclusive, admit it, your heart and your mind has, why not listen to them and just admit it! You LOVE him!
There is no trust issue here the issue is that you like him and you will not admit it, you say you are not exclusive, but you want it to be, admit it to yourself, and admit it to him, if he comes to you then he is yours, if he does not come to you, then he never was, he was always "hers".
2007-06-15 16:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really have a frank discussion with him about what is going on. Tell him what is ok with you and what isn't. It sounds like he is cheating on someone else with you. This is really a horrible way to start out a relationship.
2007-06-15 16:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by dustyk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't break it off. Just try to have a talk with him first and tell him how you feel. If he is willing to listen, he is a good man; if not, then don't even bother trying to work it out with him. Good luck, Girl! you deserve it!
2007-06-15 16:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's any reason to talk about it. He's not trustworthy. End of story, right?
The real question is do you want to be in a relationship with a guy who you can't trust?
2007-06-15 16:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Karoline M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him to be honest and don't mind that he sees other women just tell him that. Ask him to be honest that if he has plans with other woman or if one stayed over and left her tooth brush, then your cool with that but honesty is absolutely required.
You do realize your hooked up with a player or at least a player wanna-be?
2007-06-15 16:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by Mike E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you arent trying to control him but he needs to be honest with you. Especially if you two are sleeping together, you have the right to know if he is sleeping with anyone else.
2007-06-15 16:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by kissbutnevertell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, but consider ending it...you've already started off on the wrong foot and you'll always remember he lied to you.
2007-06-15 16:23:46 · answer #8 · answered by Sister Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A more significant question: How do you NOT discuss trust with someone you're seeing?
2007-06-15 16:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and talk about this issue with him the earlier the better!
= )
2007-06-15 16:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋