Hey everyone, thanks for reading my question. I'm 18, gone through high school and everything but I've yet to have a girlfriend. I don't have the best of looks, but not the worst either..I'm average in my opinion. Anyway, I graduated in the top 10% of my high school class and one of the ways I am able to talk to girls and become friendly is helping out and going over schoolwork (lame, I know but it works)..I've made a good number of female friends this way and I mean we're friends (they invite me to their parties, etc.) but it never seems to go past the "just friends" stage. I've asked girls out and they all give me "can we just be friends?" No girl, whether it's been through school or friends has ever looked at me as boyfriend material (unless there are secret admirers who never said anything to me) has looked at me that kind of way, I always end up just being a friend who's a nice and sweet guy. These same girls that I want hang out with guys I'd consider jerks and drink and smoke...
2007-06-15 08:49:10 · 6 answers · asked by ILuvTaraReid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...and do things I never would do. A lot play football or basketball and what not, but everytime I think about what they're doing that I'm not, it seems that I can't. I mean I see the girl(s) I wish I had or that I'm friendly with (or both) and they give hugs to these guys (and they're also just friends) and if I ever did such a thing, I think I'd be slapped in the face and kicked to the curb because they just would never expect that out of me. Seems very high schoolish right? And the girls that are on the more popular side that I'm friendly with are the epitome of what I just said about hugging guys and these guys can say anything with a naughty connotation or anything and I would NEVER be able to pull that off. As I am about to embark on college, can you give me advice to use when I head off to college? Thanks again for reading this long *** post
2007-06-15 08:52:04 · update #1
Dude, I never had a girlfriend in high school either, but apparently college aged girls go for what the high school girls didn't because I've had hotter girlfriends than 90% of guys that I know.
Whatever you do don't change yourself in order to get a girlfriend because it'll never last. But in order to stay out of the friend zone YOU'VE GOT TO BE BOLD!!!
That's my best advice. I didn't have girlfriends because of a fear of rejection. You need to let these girls know you are into them BEFORE getting friendly and see where it goes.
2007-06-15 08:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have more luck in college. There are probably going to be more people there, which means a lot more girls. High school girls are all like that - fickle, and they tend to want the "bad boys" more than the nice guys like you. You don't have to change anything about yourself to get a girl, except to assert yourself a little more and get out there and do some more asking. Start out with asking a girl to dinner and a movie or something not super-romantic like that so you have some one-on-one time with her in a non-committed, non-threatening environment. If she's the right girl, she'll see that you're worth being more than friends with over time. I'm not sure how you're going about it right now, but maybe these girls are giving you the "friends" line because you are jumping right into wanting a relationship with them, or it could be because they are immature high school girls who care more about looks and perceived "dangerousness" than about a quality relationship. Give yourself some time, I'm sure you will find a great girl.
2007-06-15 09:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mlle A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 17:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by harting 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah dude, I knew/know the pain but being the bigger person and a good one is always hard, but rewarding in the long run... when the women grow up they'll want to be with you
2007-06-15 08:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Soap Box Preacher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm kinda of a nice guy too...i'm just 15 and i'm going to be a junior next year...i am sooo terrified
2007-06-15 09:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In high school drinking and smoking is cool.
2007-06-15 08:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋