When it comes to love, how does age factor into a relationship?

Question

I am a 30 year old tennis player currently participating in a new dating show on NBC called "Age of Love". In the show, I must date a group of 20-something women and a group of 40-something women in a search for love. I am looking for some advice. Can you help me out?

Answer 1

I'm actually excited to see how this works out for you, man! In my opinion, if you really like a person-and not just for their looks-then I say age doesn't matter! i don't think you should even think about their age! The girl that makes you feel a little something inside every time you see her smile and a girl you enjoy being around is the one you should go for! But just a little warning, the 20-somethings will be all over you whereas the 40-somethings are going to judge you first! They'll tally you up so be on your best behavior! Good luck!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Well, i think game shows never really find ur real true love. But u have 2 be causious. I think either way u can choose a 40 yr old or a 20 yr old because both r 10 years apart. Remember the younger, the harder 2 have a relationship started. If u were dating a 40 year old, they r probally more serious in relationships. Which ever girl fits ur personality I think is the right one.
Age doesn't matter exacually (well if ur 80 and ur dated someone who is 30 then that's wayyyy 2 much). If u look today divorce rates are going high, right? Well that's maybe because the women are marrying younger men or maybe their age. Back then women marryied or dated older men and it went all fine. Now comare this 2 a relationship. Say if u had a relationship with a 40 yr old. Their is a chance they will quickly breakup. So I recomend a 20 year old would be better. the younger need 2 have someone older 2 be more protected or mature enough. Just look it as a scale of maturity. Just remember 2 pick a person who isn't intrested in money and who is really their 4 a relatinship (there are people like these a lot on TV). good luck.

Answer 3

Well My Advice Would Be U Know Alot Of Them Are In It Just To Be On The Show And Ur Gonna Have A Very Little Selection Of Women Looking For Love.....But My Opinion Is That Age Doesnt Matter Because If U Find Things That U Like In That Person And U Enjoy Being With Them Why Should Age Matter? After All Age Is Just A Number Anyways!! Now Im Not Saying Go After Someone Younger Than Twenty Cause Thats Kinda Questionable!!! But I Would Say Age Doesnt Matter And I Would Go For It, But Dont Be Hurt If The Person U Pick Dumps U After The Show Or A Couple Of Dates Later. Well Maybe This Will Help U Out!

Answer 4

At this age u really have to be on the top of ur game, an older woman doesnt want to hear excuses, doesnt care for imaturity, and doesnt really need u financially, she's pretty much set; all she need is a beneficial companion- SO what Im saying is that u have to bring more to the table than just superficial things, u have to be exceptionaly emotionally and verbally developed where as with a 20 something the factors are less demanding in the relationship. Now dont get me wrong a 30 something and a 20 something or a 20 something and a 40 something "can" make it in a relationship if they are truly in love.. true love can withstand an age gap, but it will truly take some work. The two parties have to be real, upfront & honest with theyre expectations from eachother, and what they expect to give/gain from this union. If the issues are too far apart and an agreement can't be made and its like the two age groups want different things then its better to seperate. For example if the 20-30 guy wants kids and hes dealing with a 40 something who never had kids, then thats a huge issue, definately a relationship stopper. But if its true love & both parties decide that they are on the same accord then Voila!!! true love awaits at any age!!! I truly wish u luck & love, I am 24 and I have tons of dating horror stories, & I have dated from 20-40 somethings and still cant find Mr Right, so I understand why ur on this show. FOLLOW UR HEART!!! -Naomi

Answer 5

Well, speaking from personal experience, don't worry too much about the age difference. I am 41 and I have mainly dated women older than I in the past. Within the last year I started dating women younger than I. The oldest I dated was 7 years older than I and the youngest was 12 years younger than I. My parents had 10 years age difference between them with my dad being the oldest. What I am really trying to say is being on the "reality" show probably won't give you enough time to figure out which woman will be the one you have a connection with. When it comes to love, age is nothing but a number.
What you really need to ask yourself is whether or not kids are a factor in your life and how important of is being able to have kids going to be. Currently my fiance is 4 years younger than I. You really just have to see which of the women you can connect with. Which one has the most in common with you. Maybe I am unjustly stereotyping the 2 age groups but with age comes maturity. The younger the 20 something is the less likely she might be over the partying stage. If you decide to pick a 20 something try to pick one as close to your age as possible. But there again chemistry between you and whomever you pick won't have much if anything to do with age.
An advantage to being with a a 40 something woman is that she is mature, hopefully done with the high school and college relationship games and they should by now be pretty financially and job related stable.
So if the show allows you the time to get to know each of the women, just go with your gut feeling and never mind the age difference.

Answer 6

Some questions you should ask the 40 something women.
-Why are the 40 something women single?
-Do they have any children?
-If not, do they want them at this age?
-Have they been married?
-Do they want a younger man?
-Are they focused on their career. Or do they prefer not to work?
Some questions you should ask the 20 something women
-Are they ready to settle down?
-Do they want to start a family?
-Are they still going to go out? Or want to go out and party with "the girls" if you are together?
-Are they focused on their career. Or do they prefer not to work?

I think that the 40 something women may have some good life experience. This will be an advantage for them and also a disadvantage. The problems I see are they have moved passed the point of where a 30 year old guy is. Maybe if they were 30 something. 34 at the most it may work. The maturity is definetely a plus. Especially when they are around their girl friends. Mostly in social situations like bars or clubs.That's when you"ll see big differences. Your goals and visions for the future may be very different.
The 20 something women have some very strong advantages. They are in a transition phase. Their becoming more mature. They may be looking to start a family. Their going to want to experience new things that the other women may say "Oh I've been there, done that". Some may not be mature yet. That's where you'll have to be focused. Finding the most mature. As far as pysical appearance. From looking at the pics. I don't see that being a factor!
Your 30. You may think you've experienced alot. Even with women but belive me. I know. I'm 39 and it only gets better every year! Go for the 20 somethings! I'll be watching. Hope I hear some of my questions!!!

Answer 7

I agree with many of the comments posted. For example, I don't think you can find love on a TV show, but it may be a way to find someone you would really like to see more of and maybe that can turn to love and marriage.

As for the age issue, it depends. At 20, I was in no way ready to get married, even though I thought I was. The closer you get to 30 the more you know yourself and what you want in life. However, you may find some very mature 25 year olds that would fit into this category. If you go with the 40 year olds, they will be far more mature, in most cases (there are always the exceptions). The issue with the 40 year olds will be children. If they have kids, you are getting an instant family. Will they want to have more kids? Do you want kids, if so, how many and when? A 40 year old woman has about 5 years of reproduction left, give or take a couple years. That is not a lot of room to settle down with each other and get comfortable before baby comes along.

Personally, I think you should keep your choices into the 25 - 35 year range. I think you will both be happier.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

age affects the relationship alot. When you start getting into the wider gaps you find that the two people, no matter how compatable are mentally at different stages of their life. Ex a 22 year old might be wondering how they will pay off college while a 40 something year old might have their own house and be expecting grandchildren if they don't have them already. There are different stages we all go through mentally and also just naturally and because of this there will be times when generally the younger one will seem immature because they either don't have the experience of some promblems or because they haven't hit that point yet where they need to worry about the things an older person does. For the same reasons the older person could seem uptight because they want the younger person to "grow up" or immature because they are acting the way they did back when they were the same age as the younger person. Also, realistically some people do look at the fact that if there is a large age difference, is the younger one willing to accept they might end up losing the other one to old age or a disease when they would be at an age to still have another 20 years or so to go if the difference is big enough. Some 40 year olds already have had kids who are grown and gone and don't want more, some younger ones might want kids down the road. there's a lot of things related to age that affect the relationship.

Answer 9

The answer to this question is loaded, but I will try 2 make it short & sweet, When ur younger 20s-early 30s, and not as stable in the plans for life or who u are as a person, we tend to search for someone else to a) complete us b) grow with & make us more well rounded. At this point we arent as jaded, and we can bounce back because the future is always bright, but when ur dealing with an older person 40s a) they are already financially established b) seek companionship & emotional stability. At this age u really have to be on the top of ur game, an older woman doesnt want to hear excuses, doesnt care for imaturity, and doesnt really need u financially, she's pretty much set; all she need is a beneficial companion- SO what Im saying is that u have to bring more to the table than just superficial things, u have to be exceptionaly emotionally and verbally developed where as with a 20 something the factors are less demanding in the relationship. Now dont get me wrong a 30 something and a 20 something or a 20 something and a 40 something "can" make it in a relationship if they are truly in love.. true love can withstand an age gap, but it will truly take some work. The two parties have to be real, upfront & honest with theyre expectations from eachother, and what they expect to give/gain from this union. If the issues are too far apart and an agreement can't be made and its like the two age groups want different things then its better to seperate. For example if the 20-30 guy wants kids and hes dealing with a 40 something who never had kids, then thats a huge issue, definately a relationship stopper. But if its true love & both parties decide that they are on the same accord then Voila!!! true love awaits at any age!!! I truly wish u luck & love, I am 24 and I have tons of dating horror stories, & I have dated from 20-40 somethings and still cant find Mr Right, so I understand why ur on this show. FOLLOW UR HEART!!! -Naomi

Answer 10

I think it plays a important role, definitely and the maturity of both parts. Its always an issue when the man is younger than the woman but not the other way. For example my dad is 15 years older than my mom, he is 77 and she is 62. Even though they are both old my mom can't understand sometimes some behaviors of my dad, things that he does or forgets. She doesn't do a big deal about it but she doesn't understand sometimes because she is sharp. In the other side my sister is 5 years older than her husband and he is a lot more immature than her and they have their issues most of the time because of that.

They are some factors that u have to see and accept when u get in a relationship with an older woman. She will age much before u, interest won't be the same at some point, maybe won't keep up with some activities and so on. Also, with younger women u will have some issues, maturity, interest in getting in a serious relationship, etc... Its two different people trying to connect with some different perspective of life due to age. A 40 year old person doesn't see life as a 20 something or younger.

Take the risk. Love hurts at times but u might gain a partner for life. Good Luck in the show.

P.S. I f u r 30 i don't think 20 something is too young or 40 something too old. ; )

Answer 11

At this point we arent as jaded, and we can bounce back because the future is always bright, but when ur dealing with an older person 40s a) they are already financially established b) seek companionship & emotional stability. At this age u really have to be on the top of ur game, an older woman doesnt want to hear excuses, doesnt care for imaturity, and doesnt really need u financially, she's pretty much set; all she need is a beneficial companion- SO what Im saying is that u have to bring more to the table than just superficial things, u have to be exceptionaly emotionally and verbally developed where as with a 20 something the factors are less demanding in the relationship. Now dont get me wrong a 30 something and a 20 something or a 20 something and a 40 something "can" make it in a relationship if they are truly in love.. true love can withstand an age gap, but it will truly take some work. The two parties have to be real, upfront & honest with theyre expectations from eachother, and what they expect to give/gain from this union. If the issues are too far apart and an agreement can't be made and its like the two age groups want different things then its better to seperate. For example if the 20-30 guy wants kids and hes dealing with a 40 s