What is he getting at?

Question

There is this guy that I met excatly 5 weeks ago. We hit it off really well! He lives an hour away from me so we don't get to see each other that much. When we talk on the phone though lately he will say things to me like why don't you hook up with your friend justin? (justin is like my best friend!) I just tell him to knock it off. But then he says that wants to come out and see me again... what does he want?

Answer 1

Sounds to me like he's fishing to see if you're dating or hooking up with any other guys while he's gone. This could be either because he's trying to see if you're open for a committed relationship, or it *could* be because he's just trying to see if you're an easy lay. I'd openly ask him, face-to-face next time he comes to see you, exactly what is he trying to say. Let him know that, while you're open to a committed relationship with the right guy, you're also willing to take it slow and have fun until it's time to take things to the next level--but you'll do it in *your* time. That way he'll know that you're not one of those clingy, needy psycho-girls who'll be in his bushes every time he doesn't pick up the phone, but at the same time you'll be down for only him if that's what he wants/needs. But if he's only up for no-strings fun, and you're for the same, let him know that, too. But whatever you do, be sure to do it because that's what you want, not because you think he does. Good luck!

Answer 2

This one is a sorta insecure one. When you ask someone why don't you you are asking have you or are you curently. My advice if you really wanna see him don't talk or refer to Justin as much verbally. Save the talk for about the two of you with this guy. He just wanrts to know if your playing him that's it. Don't worry.

Answer 3

He wants you to say " I don't want to be with him, I want to be with you."

Also guys don't like girls to talk about other guys to them.

Answer 4

He wants what every guy wants he want to pound your guts out