I have been with this guy for 6months and it has been a big a huge roller coaster ride.. I met him thru this girl who has been friends with him for 14 years- the three of us used to party etc anyway she got a bit jealous of the time he would spend with me and I know she has feelings for him (but he dosn't for her) He has said i shouldn't let her get between us.
I am going overseas in a few days and he needs a place to stay while i'm gone. He has been staying here for the last few weeks. He spent last night with her and her brother and his nephew, as I no longer like to see her because I no longer trust her and he didn't ask me to come anyway... I feel that he should not have gone over there especially since I am leaving the country for 7 weeks...she knows this as well and even put it in her calender!! please help me... I am tempted to turn my phone off and not talk to him b4 i go and not let him stay here. Am I overreacting? I don't think he knows how manipulating she is...
2007-06-15 08:17:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is going to help me with my rent while I'm gone, as I was looking for someone to do so.... I have told him not to bring anyone over, and my flatmate should tell me if he does i hope! Can't I just turn my phone off and not talk to him? Its so much easier!!!
he wants me to be normal and not go funny whenever she is mentioned...
2007-06-15 08:31:49 · update #1
I wouldnt let him stay over at your place. Simply because his friend is so manipulating...god only knowes what would happen to your place.
2007-06-15 08:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is rude enough to go spend the night at someone's house - someone who has a crush on him nonetheless - and doesn't even invite you along. But when you're overseas, he wants to stay at your place? What - you're place wasn't good enough for him the night he stayed at the other house, so why should your place be good enough for him now. And since you've only known this guy for 6 months, you would be a FOOL to let him stay at your crib. Your relationship is not stable enough for you to put such trust in him. This will come back to bite you if you let it happen. DON'T DO IT!
2007-06-15 15:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by tooblessed2doubt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me...I would not allow him to stay in your home while you are gone, the two of you have not been together long enough, and besides, do you really want him to be there and invite you friend over? if its been such a ride, get rid of him and find a new guy on your own. You won't break up a 14 year friendship, and you will always wonder? I hope I have helped! Enjoy your trip
2007-06-15 15:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a relationsip for 12 years that was a rollercoaster from the beginning... we are divorced now, something i learned is that a rollercoaster is usually created when the needs of the 2 people don't match & the relationship swings back & forth between meeting one person's needs OR the other... never both. and that's a problem.
the other thing is, sounds like he does not respect your concerns. there is NO WAY i'd want my boyfriend spending the night at another woman's house, nor would he want me to spend the night at a man's house. not because we dont trust one another (we do), but out of respect for our relationship & one another. we just do not do it.
you deserve to be respected & have your needs met. so does he. you two need to deside if this is the right relationship to do that.
2007-06-15 15:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not overreacting at all!!! I would give him an opportunity to explain/apologize maybe before you go just so he doesn't blame you for any of this. Never let them turn it around on you, so act like a mature mama all the time!! Seems like you do anyway :-)
2007-06-15 15:23:29 · answer #5 · answered by Seven Signs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you are screwed. The guy and girl are going to be doing something while you are gone. She is probably doing it for spite and he is doing it, because he is a guy. I am sorry, but don't feel too sad. Guys come and go and you will find one that appreciates your worth.
2007-06-15 15:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by jenniferjones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be snuggin' up to her for a future place to stay but Let him,,I wouldnt have him stay at my place,,you will worry the whole time you are away.
2007-06-15 15:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to go with instinct. If you think they will get together behind your back then he shouldn't stay at your place. If you trust him, then everything will be ok when you return. You have to keep communication open.
2007-06-15 15:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're the one being manipulated and your guy friend is playing both ends to the middle.
2007-06-15 15:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnot let him stay him over dere i mean u dont wats that woman goin to do with him plus tell him to rent a hotel or smething coz that doesnt sound rite.
2007-06-15 15:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by shahreenxoxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋