Meeting daughters boyfriend for the first time?

Question

How do you think he would react meeting us in a room filled with ancient weapons?

Do you think that he might be a little more considerate in dealing with our daughter?

The weapons have been collected and past down from generation to generation and added on to through years of family military service. They are properly displayed, secured and insured.

Answer 1

I don't see it as being a problem. When i went to see my ex gfs mother for the first time, she was just acting as she normally would and it was ok.

you cannot change your lifestyle to suit your daughters bf, because if i m right in saying, he will probably be round quite a lot. if he cannot accept you for who you are, how can you think he will accept your daughter for who she is?

Answer 2

As a daughter with an over protective father, I have a few things to say.

Having your little "meeting" in a room full of ancient weapons will not only scare off your daughters boyfriend, but also embarass your daughter. If she has the guts to have him come over and meet you, he obviously means something to her and you chasing him off just isn't fair.

Along with my he means something to her, I don't know if you are forcing this meeting or not. But if it's on her own, I give her kudos. If I don't have to tell my dad about a boyfriend, I won't, just because he embarasses me and and him. One time he videotaped my ex boyfriend.

As far as considerate goes, I think he'd be embarassed and not want anything to do with your daughter. If I were a boy, I'd be so afraid that I would probably break up with her because I'd be too afraid to do anything wit her.

And just remember.. your daughter is someone that you have to deal with for the rest of your life. Don't mess things up. If you just act cool, then you're relationship can only get better. Lay down the rules and tell her you love her and then set her free. I'm sure that her judgement is god. :)


Good Luck.

Answer 3

how well do you love you daughter and how well do you trust your daughter? how old is your daughter? is she 12 or 16 or 18 or 10.how well do you know your daughter and is she reliable or flakey. depends on how you trust your daughter to do the right thing.as my email name suggest i am an old man and have raised 3 children and am now trying to help raise 2 grandchildren.each child is different and should be treated differently.som can handle life better than others.it seems like either that your daughter wants to do the right thing with you meeting her boyfriend or you are showing good parents concern for your daughter or both is happening.on meeting him in the room with the weapons what are you trying to do impress or scare him. i dont think it will do anything positive either way.kids today dont think the way we think.they have their own set of values by the dating age unless they are too young to have values and then they dont need to be dating.he wont think anything about the weapons except that they are sorta nice and if he is a PUNK it wont scare him in treating your daughter any more considerate or less considerate.he will try things with your daughter to see how far she will go unless he is has christian values. do you know anything about the boy? how big of town do you live in YOU ASK A BIG QUESTION AND DIDNT GIVE A LOT OF DETAILS ABOUT YOU OR YOUR DAUGHTER.what kind of background christian non christian atheist jew muslim or what.is she the oldest or only child .

Answer 4

Don't do that to your daughter! It will only make the guy think that her family is crazy which a lot of times effects the way that he looks at her. If she is happy and likes him then the least you could do is be happy for her, and trust her! But I certainly wouldn't suggest that you do anything that might jepordize the relationship! She is your daughter and I am sure a little trust is deserved!

Answer 5

A little more considerate than what? Do what my dad did; sit him down and tell him how he will treat your daughter with respect and courtesy, how if he hurts your daughter at all, in any way, you will kill him. Say it simply and seriously. That's more effective than a room full of weapons.

Answer 6

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 7

Make him think your crazy...Like make a sandwich and tell your daughter to go get it. While you're alone with him say, "I'm watching every move you make....don't try to do anything funny with my daughter....and take out this knife and hold it in your hand while apples or on your table and hold the knife over him making him think that your about to use the knife on him but then slam it down on the apples heheheehe. Good idea eh?

Answer 8

Possibly. Or he might just start talking to you about weapons. It all depends on the guy! Just gain his respect and either way he will respent you and by considerate of her!

Answer 9

That would definitely scare him off. Make sure he's a good guy, question him all you want, cause he's probably expecting that anyway, but be nice. Your daughter will get really mad at you if you go overboard too.

Answer 10

Make sure you are busy hand sharpening a large hunting knife and let him know that you have no qualms about going back to prison for the right reasons.