Can a divorced man be forgiven of adultery?

Question

My fiance has been married twice. First and second marriage his spouse committed adultery. But his second marriage he would have been considered living in adultery with her bc she divorced her first for no reason... if I marry him will it be considered adultery?? Can there be forgiveness?

she wasn't divorced when they met.. she was "seperated" from her husband... i think they got married a month after her divorce was final

I am Pentecostal if that makes any difference...

Answer 1

Yes. Only unforgivable sin is denial of Jesus' deity. : )

Answer 2

She divorced her?

If both spouses committed adultery, then those marriages had legal grounds for divorce in both cases, even based on the O.T.

The time of a divorce being finalized is merely a formality. In the law, all one had to do was hand her a bill of divorcement, period.

It does appear though that you are trying to force-fit O.T. concepts into marriage in regards to all this.

It is not adultery for you to marry him if indeed the previous mates committed adultery.

And forgiveness is always possible with the exception of the unpardonable sin; turning your back on God after having received the Holy Spirit.

I suggest you also examine your involvement in the Pentecostal church, as something just doesn't seem right in all this that you have related.

Answer 3

Excuse me but everyone has a reason for the actions they take. The reasons may not be considered to be good reasons by some people, but they are still reasons. So obviously his wife by his second marriage had a reason for divorcing her former husband before having married this man. So what was the reason? And are you implying that the reason isn't one approved of by whatever religion you follow? Because that would be the only thing that would make him an adulterer, that he would still be considered married in the eyes of the church you attend but not in the eyes of the law.

Answer 4

There is always forgiveness for one who sincerely repents of having knowingly done something wrong.

Sounds like you're Catholic. . . . .and in that case, you ought to talk to a priest.

If this man's first marriage was lawful and valid, he is not free to marry again. His divorce would not be recognized even though his spouse committed adultery and broke her marriage vow. The marital union is believed to be life-long, no matter what.

There are other conditions and ramifications. Is he Catholic? Or, was he ever baptized? If he was Catholic at the time of his first marriage, was he married in the presence of a Catholic priest? Lots of such things need to be known, which is why I suggest you talk to a priest, if you are Catholic. If you are not Catholic, and if your faith allows divorce and remarriage, I don't know why his first and second marriages should be of concern.

I had a relative who was Catholic and who married a divorced Protestant man. His first marriage didn't last a year, but this marriage lasted 50 years before he died. Through it all, my cousin remained faithful to Catholicism, Mass every Sunday, even without Communion. When her husband died, she returned to the Sacraments with the benefit of confession and a talk with the priest. But one must wonder: which was the true and real marriage of this man -- his first marriage or his second? I suspect it was the second which was the true and real marriage. But one would never convince the authorities in the Catholic Church that there was nothing wrong with my cousin marrying a divorced man. Through it all, IMO, one must do what one considers to be right and good in God's eyes as one understands that in his/her relationship with God. But, surely, there is no sin which cannot be forgiven as soon as one sincerely repents of it.

Answer 5

The only unforgivable sin is blasphemy against the Holy Ghost. As long as there is breath, there is forgiveness. Your problem might be finding a minister that will marry you. Some ministers frown on divorces no matter what the reason. Good Luck to you.

Edit: I am Pentecostal, too.

Answer 6

God says that He hates divorce, there is only one reason, where He allows a person to be set free from their spouse and that is if the spouse commits adultery and does not want to come out of their sin. God says then you have the right to put them away, divorce them , but you don't have to.
Every case I believe is based on your relationship with God, and what He tells you to do .
My husband was having affairs for the 29 years, that I have been married to him . God told me, not to divorce him, my husband just divorced me and God told me , that I am free before Him.
Just fast and pray and seek God on this and He will answer you.

Answer 7

"God, the Originator of marriage, designed it to be a permanent union. But is there any Scriptural reason for a person to divorce his or her mate—and one that would allow for the possibility of remarrying? Jesus addressed this matter by declaring: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9) Sexual infidelity by a mate is the only ground for a divorce that will allow the innocent mate to remarry."

He was living in adultery as you say with his second wife, but if his second wife has slept with another man then he is scripturally free to remarry you.

Answer 8

Yes, because marriage is said to be "til death do you part", so actually he is committing adultery until both his ex-wives are dead. When he divorced the 1st wife & married again, its the same thing, if she's not dead. And then he divorced his 2nd wife & if she's not dead...well u get the idea. He can be forgiven if he is born again, thats the only way.

Answer 9

I don't think it's a sin for you to marry him. He did sin by marrying that woman. However, if he's been divorced twice, you may want to reconsider. That's a lot of baggage to bring into a marriage, even if the previous divorces were not his fault.

Answer 10

According to the bible, and to the Catholic Church...yes you would be committing adultery.

You bring up a good point...how can someone promise before God to love, honor, etc...then promise before God with another person to love, honor...and now promise before God with you to love you and honor you...etc. See what I mean? Doesn't the promise kind of lose something?

Sacramentally, if your fiance was married in a church the first time...he is still married sacramentally to his first wife. He may have divorced her via the State...but God is a much higher authority.

Can adultery be forgiven? Yes...but every time you have sex with your husband, you'd have to be forgiven again, since he is still married to his first wife. Difficult yes, but we can't change the laws and teachings of Christ to fit our lifestyle.

Answer 11

It depends on your religion.

Strictly speaking the bible states that if one "lies with another" whose spouse is alive it is adultery. The only exception is in the case of divorce and the only justification for divorce is if ones spouse commits adultery.

So... by strict interpretation if his second wife did not divorce for legitimate reasons he was committing adultery with her. However, since both his spouses cheated his divorces are legitimate so you would not be committing adultery with him.