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Question

I need advice, I'm really afraid That I will never have kids, and I'm afraid that I will never marry, I'm afraid that god wont give me things, I my whole life, I only ask god for only few things, and the three things were , was to send me a boyfriend, and he did, I ask him to make me a good loving wife and mother someday, I ask him to heal my grandpa, and keep my boyfriend safe, and he always does, but I'm sacred to death, that he wont give me kids, and a family, of my own, I had a very hard childhood, and the only thing that kept me going, was the hope of kids, and a husband of my own, and every night I pray for god to give me this, is it to selfish, that I want this, with all my heart, I have a loving heart, and I want to share it. I try to be good and follow him, But I feel that if he doesn't give me this, I dont want to follow him, and I know that is wrong for me to feel like that, Please help, advice?

Oh, I'm in college , but I'm afraid that god will come back, and I wont get kids, and a husband

Answer 1

Your fear seems to stem from the disappointments you've had in life (maybe from your father so you expect the same treatment from God?) I don't think it's selfish to want a family, I think God wired most of us to want them, and I would imagine your prayer will be answered, who knows maybe answered in the next few years. But I would suggest counseling from a pastor or christian counseling group like New Life to help you see the difference between your father (or whomever) and God. 1-800-NEW-LIFE

Answer 2

The problem is that you are the one defining the terms of "success" or "fulfillment". Some people have very strong feelings about what they want out of life. They may even be very good at what they want to do. But this does not oblige God or the universe to cooperate. There may be other plans for your life.

Perhaps instead of bearing children of your own, your nurturing, maternal wishes would be better used adopting or fostering children, or working in the day-care industry, or early childhood education, or state Child Protective Services, or lobbying legislatures for better health care for children. If things are not turning out exactly as you imagine, look for opportunities to use your talents and drives in ways that fit the world you experience. Your dream may indeed come true some day, but the harder you try to force it, the less likely it is to be. Use your skills where you can and stop worrying about it. Then what happens, happens.

Answer 3

I had a bishop who used to constantly say that God can't steer a parked car.

You have to get out there and date. Ask God for confirmation that the person could be good and loving spouse. After every date make a list of things you liked about the person, and some traits you'd rather not have in your mate.

As for children, don't stress about that until after you are married. Then do your part and pray to God that the life inside you grows strong and healthy.

It all comes down to pray as though everything depends on God, then work as though everything depends on you.

Answer 4

I don't know if God will answer your prayers the way he hope he does, but you need to trust that God is good all the time, and no matter what happens, everything will end up all right. This is always hard to accept when you're going through tough times; I know because I've been there. Just make sure you aren't using your faith as a means to be happy--you should love and worship God with all your heart and consider his love for you the ultimate gift and source of happiness. Tough stuff, but hang in there!

Answer 5

Just when we think that God has forsaken us, he shows up.. I have been praying for the same things in the past for years. but to no avail would GOD give me what I want. Though I have yet to receive my intention I'm happy with God and him alone right now. Sometime God wants us to grow closer to him and learn of him so, he can show us how to be the mother and wife to the husband and kids we've been asking for. Other times God wants us to address the hidden issue of fear and fear being lonely before he blesses us with these things. which, was my case I was terrified of being old and alone i thought I needed a man and a family to validate me. but, God had to show me how to love me the single me first before he blesses me with my prayer. I challenge you to look deep in your heart and ask yourself do you want a family because you fear being alone or do you genuinely want a family. Either way be patience and wait on the lord. for we know that all things work for the good of them that love the lord. Be encourage my friend!

Also we as believers need to get the notion that GOD is Genie out of our heads. GOD is not some magical being who is here to grant our wishes. He was here to bare our sins that we may be saved....

Found this on a website powered by Dr. Dale A Robbins.... thought it might be helpful...

www.victorious.org/unprayer.htm

Answer 6

I am going to go about this a bit differently than most. I am going to suggest that you begin praying for that future husband of yours! Begin praying that the Lord is leading him, and teaching him, and guiding him, and keeping him safe, and putting other Christians in his path that will pray for him and encourage him, and help him to become a Godly man.

Get your focus off of yourself and onto others. Fear is the only thing you have to fear and it sounds as though it is about to consume you. Do not let it! Look beyond your own desires and ask the Lord what His desire for your life is.

If you feel it is wrong for you to feel like this, confess it to the Lord as sin and leave it there.

In the mean time, begin studying Proverbs 31, and set your goal as becoming that woman.

The Lord knows the plans He has for you. Put your trust in Him and you will not fail.

Answer 7

God answers prayers. It may not be the answer we are looking for, but He answers them. :) However, you must also understand that He has his own time line. Look at how Old Abraham was when God said he would give him a son. Then look at how long it took. :) Just stay positive and keep your Faith and Belief. Remember, whatever happens, it is the will of God. Good luck and I will pray that you find a good man and have as many wonderful kids as you wish. Thanks.

Answer 8

Could you adopt? I can never have kids so I had to give up hope for children when I was 12. There is always adoption.

Good luck.

Edit:
I misread that. If you are only in college, you have plenty of time. Don't try to rush too much.

Answer 9

Well you just have to have faith in God that your life will turn out okay.

Also I would like to point out that if you want to get married and have kids, take initiative and go out and do those things. Don't wait for God to act. I am a Christian but I strongly believe that waiting for God's will to happen is no excuse not to live our lives.

Answer 10

Believe it or not, you are not the only one who feels like this. My oldest daughter is going through something very similar (except she didn't have a hard childhood.)

Fear is not of God - it is of Satan. "Fear not" appears many times throughout scripture.

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I will tell you what I have told my daughter. You need to FULLY place your trust in God. He sees the big picture and will give you what HE knows you need in HIS time. If you do your part, He will do His. Your part is to keep the faith and trust in Him. He knows what's best for you...