The funeral is over and I just heard about the death because I live far away. I want to let her know that I'm thinking of her and I want to do something special. Any unique ideas? She lives close to her mother--should I send flowers and a dish to their homes? Please help! I dont know what is appropriate.
2007-06-15 06:47:48 · 3 answers · asked by Lorrie B 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Distant as in miles!
2007-06-15 06:52:09 · update #1
Send a letter.
Say you've just learned the sad news about her father, how very sorry you are, and that you are thinking of her.
If you know him, a nice memory about him would be good, otherwise say something about things she's said about him (positive things, or funny things, but not the really rotten things, if you follow me).
Knowing that you care is the biggie here.
It's called a condolence letter.
More people used to know about them than now do, but they are greatly appreciated by the recipients.
You don't want a unique idea, you want something that lets her know you care.
Telling her so is the way to prove that.
After all, she's special to you, you're special to her, right?
So hearing words of connection and affection from you will be special.
Oh, and don't try to be "comforting" -- such as saying things like she'll get over it, or anything to "spin" it positively.
Just affection and sympathy, and, if possible, a memory you have of him, showing your solidarity in her grief.
Simple and straightforward and plain is the ticket.
2007-06-15 11:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a "distant" friend? A card of sympathy is appropriate.
2007-06-15 13:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A card and flowers would be gratefully appreciated, i am sure. Even just a card would let them know you are thinking of them.
2007-06-15 13:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by musicdancerecords 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋