I had kind of a falling out with the guy I was "seeing" the other day and all of a sudden I realized that he slept with my best friend. I have pretty good reason to believe I'm right, plus I've never been wrong about this stuff in the past. The only thing is, she would NEVER admit it to me. So the only way I could know for sure would be to ask him. Should I ask him or just forget about it? Either way I'm not seeing him anymore but my curiosity is killing me.
2007-06-15 05:49:13 · 25 answers · asked by DramaBug23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ask him, tell him to be honest.
BTW I need more people to answer my last Q, thanks.
2007-06-15 05:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Okay, "Ms. Curiosity that killed the cat", about 95.999% of the time the female intuition is RIGHT. Take a moment and think of what was said and done to give you this feelin. I sure that you didn't wake up one morning and say, "I bet my boyfriend slept with my best friend". Something had to have happened in order for this to transpire. What I want you to do is write down what took place and what was said from both your ex and your best friend. Then, analyze these events and I promise that you will have your answer. Also, if she will never admit it to you, what makes you think that he will? Don't waste your time! One more thing, if it comes down to that they did have sex, then what? Will you remain to be her friend or will you drop her? If it did happen, you better drop her because she'll do it again. One lesson out of life for you is "No matter how close or how long you've been best friends with someone, never allow them to be around you and your man"; under any circumstances!!! Blessings!!!
2007-06-15 06:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by W.O.W. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Female intuition" is only relevant with other females since, at the primal level, all females think alike. Thus, females pick up on subtle things like body language and subconsciously process it as intuition. Its similar to a father meeting his daughter's boyfriend and knowing precisely what the young man is thinking and feeling. You could even call that a version of male intuition.
If you got the signals from your friend that this happened, you're probably right. If you got the signals from him, you're probably being paranoid.
2007-06-15 05:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by Takfam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the sudden you realized? What does that mean? Sorry but this just sounds like you're guessing.
If you're not staying with him then why ask? You're trusting your guesses.
I had an ex who said almost word for word what you just said. But the fact was I've never cheated on anyone. If you trust your intuiguess more than him then he's better off without you.
2007-06-15 05:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could ask him, but really, what will it accomplish. Do you know for sure he will tell you the truth?. If you are not seeing each other anymore, it may be best to leave it and get on with your life.
2007-06-15 06:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by musicdancerecords 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think that she slept with him? If she did she's definetly not a best friend at all, she shouldn't even be a friend to you, I think that you should ask your ex, but who's to say that he wouldn't lie, so you probably would never know unless you had it on tape or something!
2007-06-15 05:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably right. And neither of them will confess to it.
Just be icy to your friend to let her know that you know. And drop hints about honesty until she gets it.
Say sugary things about how it would be a shame for some loser guy to come between you and how it's so nice that you and her can share everything.
2007-06-15 05:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by babyitsyou31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it. If he slept with your friend she may be too embarrassed to let you know. And if she doesn't want you to know, don't lose a friendship over it, especially since he's no longer in your life.
2007-06-15 05:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just move on. Sometimes the truth is not really what we want to hear. Why get depressed. Have the upper hand and date nice guys. I would dump your girlfriend too if she acts like she would have done that to you. She is not trustworthy.
2007-06-15 05:55:15 · answer #9 · answered by willy444 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not seeing him anymore or not you should ask him, doesn't mean he will be truth-full either. But for your peace of mind give it a try and see what he says.
2007-06-15 05:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not seeing each other any more, i dont see the harm in just asking him...
sounds like you just want to substanciate your intuition more that start a fight about it.
just as long as your are cool with the answer.. either way
2007-06-15 05:53:56 · answer #11 · answered by Shake-Zula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋