My husband and I want to adopt a baby girl, but he has a felony on his record, it is not sexual.?

Question

THE FELONY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH CHILDREN, OR ANYTHING SEXUAL, IT WAS A DRUG CHARGE, HE SERVED HIS TIME, AND DID HIS PAROLE, HE HAS BEEN CLEAN FOR OVER 5 YEARS NOW AND WE WANT THIS SO BADLY. I HAVE HAD MY TUBES TIED AND THEY DON'T WANT TO UNTIE THEM AT 42 YEARS OLD. ANY SUGGESTIONS?

Answer 1

Contact a lawyer.

Answer 2

I do not want to discourage you but I have recently found out that in the state I live in, having a felony conviction makes it virtually IMPOSSIBLE to be employed! I have been so shocked to find this to be a fact that I am still trying to come to grips with it. If I did not know it for a fact I would think that someone was pulling my leg.
I can't really explain how I know because I would be betraying a trust but this person has been unemployed since the time of his conviction several years ago. It was not a violent situation, there was no weapon involved, and yet this person has not been able to be employed and has been told repeatedly that this was the reason. In desperation he neglected to mention it on one job application and was hired. Everything was fine until one day he was called down to the office and told that somehow they had found out. Needless to say they let him go.
My point is this, if you are not considered trustworthy enough to even hold down a factory job would they let you adopt a baby? Maybe it matters where you live but I have to wonder. I think that this is just horrible when there are children that so desperately need homes!
We are sending mixed messages that is for sure.
I really hope that you can adopt. Good luck.
Blessings
Lady Trinity~

Answer 3

Each state has a list of criminal offenses that automatically ban people from adopting, most are related to children, weapons, or sex. Any reputable agency in your state should be able to provide you with the list of the relevant offenses before you pay an application fee. If your husband's record does not prohibit him from adoption right off the bat, he will have to demonstrate to the home study social worker that he has changed his lifestyle, social circle, and attitude to sufficiently prove that the drug charge is behind him.

Whatever you do, don't encourage your husband to lie to the adoption agency. They WILL find the felony on his record.

Also, some agencies have age requirements for each adoption program so when you call them, be sure to mention that you are 42. I mean no offense, only to warn you that some agencies (and countries if you are adopting internationally) prefer younger adopters and it would be good for you to know ahead of time.

Answer 4

Sweet Pea there are legal guidelines you must know. It doesn't matter if he is on the birth certificate or not the courts Will automatically tell you he must give up parental rights first and then the step father can adopt the little one. Regardless if he is in the child's life or not being that he is a paternal parent he still have rights. There may be some clauses in the law but consult with a lawyer if you really want to do this. Good luck!

Answer 5

You should consider going the IVF route and get donated eggs. If his felony drug conviction had been for an offense in his early 20s, that would be different, but he's only been clean for just over 5 years at 40? Not likely. Call anyway, but I would say your chances are slimmer than many.

Answer 6

It depends on the agency really as some won't even consider felons. Some will though depending on the crime and aftermath., The homestudy SW will discuss the issue to see if there appears to be high risk of a relapse into drug abuse, lessons learned, ongoing support or therapy if needed, etc. before writing their report.

There's no guarantee though.

You can't usually adopt as a single parent if you're married. Also, any adult living in the house has to have a criminal backrground check.

Answer 7

Have you even contacted an agency yet? If not, it sounds like you're making an assumption. Why not call some adoption agencies anonymously, and ask about what their criteria is? Without giving them any personal information, they might be able to give you an answer that might lead to further involvement, ultimately to adoption. It never hurts to ask some questions.

Answer 8

Call your local child welfare services. I believe you can still adopt through foster care with a felony as long as you DISCLOSE IT UP FRONT AND SHOW REGRET. As long as the felony was not related to violence, sex or domestic violence, I bellieve most states allow foster care adoptions. Only your local child welfare agency can tell you for sure. There may be time lines placed on him as well and he may not be able to adopt until ten years have passed.

Answer 9

Seems like u have to be a stepford mom anymore b4 u adopt. Cant be single, cant do this cant do that. Dont they want these kids adopted or what. I think the kids should chose what the requirements are, not the agencys. I know they have to be safe but they might be ruining kids chances for a life. I'm a single mom to be thank God mom to be, but i'd like to adopt one, day. Good Luck, God Bless, God will bless you when its time. Personally it depends what drug, if its POT, no biggy, people make such a fuss over marajuana

Answer 10

WELL IF YOUR TUBES ARE TIED AND YOU CAN'T HAVE ANY CHILDREN WELL THAT MEANS THAT YOU COULD ADOPT A CHILD LONG AS YOUR HUSBAND DOESN'T GET ANY MORE TIME IN JAIL. HE HAS TO TAKE LOTS AND LOTS OF TIME WITH YOUR CHILD THAT Y'ALL ARE ABOUT TO ADOPT.BUT THE TIME HE SERVED WILL STILL BE ON HIS RECORD. SO Y'ALL SHOULD BE ABLE TO ADOPT Y'ALL BEAUTIFUL LITTLE GIRL Y'ALL BEEN WANTED. HAVE A GOOD AND BLESSED DAY. I HOPE IN MY PRAYERS THAT Y'ALL WILL GET Y'ALL BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER THAT Y'ALL ALWAYS WANTED SO BAD. MAKE SURE THAT YOUR HUSBAND DOESN'T GET INTO ANY MORE TROUBLE. GOD BLESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!