Is it unacceptable to spank my 10yr old son with a belt?

Answer 1

Depends. Most will say no though.

Answer 2

Some ask "would you like to be spanked with a belt?" Seems some do; but that isn't the point, is it?

What do you intend to accomplish by belting him? Is it so he will be AFRAID of you? That might be the result. If so, don't belt him!!

If it is just so he will LISTEN and obey [mostly because you love each other as a parent/child should]; then a FEW licks of the belt on the backside, on the rare occasion, can be a not-so-gentle but very effective reminder.

Answer 3

There are many theories about corporal punishment and whether or not it works on children, and I believe it is a decision all parents must make on their own. But since you are asking for opinions, I say yes, it is unacceptable. Using a belt or anything else to hit your child is excessive, in my opinion. I will also add that if you use a belt, it will leave a mark or welt. If a teacher or someone else at school sees it or your son reports it, you will be seriously busted by child protective services, and I'm pretty sure your son would be removed from your home. Therefore, I wouldn't recommend it.

Good luck. :)

Answer 4

Yes, why would you want to use any sort of weapon on your child. A belt is a device used to keep up your pants not to use to beat (and as soon as you use any kind of device it turns from a spanking into a beating) a child. There's a thin line between disciplining your child and abuse and if you use the belt then that's abuse. If your son is misbehaving then discipline him some other way. For example extra chores around the house, volunteering at a senior's home(you'd be amazed at how wise seniors are and what they can teach your son and you for that matter) but please don't hit him with a belt.

Answer 5

As a child I was spanked with a belt. No I didn't like it, yes I learned not to do it again, YES i respected my parents(I was not afraid of my parents either) and yes we had a wonderful relationship until the day they passed. I loved my parents very much and they loved me enough to spank me.Before they spanked me they talked to me about my punishment. I don't think it is the best idea to spank with a belt. I do think it is ok with an open hand. Just not to hard. My mother stopped spanking at age 11 yrs I believe it's up to the parents for that decision. I would just be careful there are alot of mean and noise people out there. They see you discipline your child and they will report you to authorities just because they can. The same person wonders why there child is out running the streets and why they have a criminal recored at such a young age or why there children do not respect them.

Answer 6

Yes, it is very unacceptable to spank any age of children with anything in my opinion. I'm not one for abuse, since I have received numerous hits and whacks by my father, and I would never want to spread hatred, only love. I stand for the child protection leagues when I say that it is unacceptable. How about talking things out when your child is in trouble? Here is the effective old saying "Use your words" and "Use your hands for helping, not hurting."

Answer 7

Yes. It is definitely unacceptable! Just put your-self in your son's body. Would you you like to be "spanked" by you dad/mom? I hope not. Try talking to him and reasoning. As a child I really appreciate the parenting I receive. Don't spank him!

Answer 8

I wouldn't say it is unacceptable, but it is unusual. By that time, they should be trained and know the boundaries that have been set. Sit him down and tell him that he is too big for spankings. Tell him that he is leaving you no choice and if he doesn't listen and that's the alternative that he chooses, you'll abide. Put the decision in his hands and tell him how embarrassing for him it is to have to get spanked at 10 years old.

Answer 9

Yes. And when that doesn't work anymore, what will you do to him next? Beat him unconscious? Burn him with a branding iron? Break a bone or two?

There must be special place in Hell for parents who have the mindset that if beating their child doesn't work so that they have to keep doing it, it must only be because they weren't beaten hard enough, or long enough, or often enough, never that just maybe that wasn't the right way to discipline him or her in the first place.

The sad thing is how many children grow up feeling that they deserved to be beaten. Or that that is the proper way to show children that you "love" them. Or that that's the only way to get Mommy or Daddy to pay any attention to them.

Answer 10

I was told from children and youth services that you are allowed to spank your child as long as you do it with an open hand only, and don't leave a mark. So no, it is not acceptable to spank your child with a belt.

Answer 11

while i am sure this ws how you were done as a child, most people find this abusive to children today. If you leave a mark on your child it could mean a round with cps. I think this is sometimes a problem with children today due that they know that parents can get in trouble by doing anything to them.
I was spanked with a belt, switches and I turned out to be a respectable young lady. but i also recieved lot of love and attention from my mother as well.