2007-06-15 05:16:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That's a key word, "if." Don't let rumour or your own imagination cause pain. If you're certain though, then pick a quiet hour or two and ask him about it.
Men take on outside relationships under several factors, including cultural tolerance, but almost always for one basic reason: they feel they need more love (expressed through sex) than they're getting. That's the real point you need to focus on.
It's not wise to lightly throw away your marriage. So don't get caught up in jealous rage, and don't overreact by leaping for a lawyer. Sex is just sex, after all.
Give serious thought to the ups and downs in your relationship over the last year, to how you've both behaved. It really is smarter to talk with your husband about why he feels he's not loved. Keep as sane as you can during these talks. If you're both willing, bring in a counsellor to help you communicate.
You married the guy for good reasons, including love. Remember those reasons. These days, many marriages get through such incidents. This is an opportunity for you both to mature -- in fact, to let truly deep love take hold and grow in your marriage.
2007-06-15 05:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by will_o_the_west 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you find out for sure, call him on it, and be prepared to end the marriage. Stand up for yourself, and don't be swayed by any sweet talk. You can always engage in counseling, if you so choose. It's up to you. When I've been cheated on, I walk away, and I never look back -- because I can never trust them again.
2007-06-15 05:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by hbomb8404 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hire a private investigator get proof and then do everything orange blosoom honey said. you always wanna be sure before you make a big decision like that. and this belongs in the divorce section.
2007-06-15 06:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is EASY to answer.
DIVORCE HIM!!!!!!!!! And then take the house and the car and the kids and everything else! He is in the wrong by cheating and you dont have to put up with it. Find a man who will love YOU and not every other woman that crosses his path. Good luck
2007-06-15 05:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by mannasox 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're absolutely certain he is, I'd tell him you know. If he denies it, get proof. If he keeps cheating, set all his stuff out on the lawn, change the locks and kick him to the curb.
2007-06-15 05:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Resident Heretic 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Um, what shall you do? my goodness that is very easy. Kick his *** to the curb and find a man that will love you for you and treat you right period.
Cheers.
2007-06-15 05:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
empty the bank account and put into a new one, put the house in your name, change the locks on the door and get a good lawyer!
but first you might want to make sure you are right- sometimes we speculate because of our own insecurities. but if you are sure- take him down!
2007-06-15 05:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by orange blossom honey 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
this question needs to be in the wedding and divorce column. and i thnk you know what you need to do. find proof and leave him. once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-06-15 06:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
start by posting the question in the right section "marriage and divorce" ewu.
2007-06-15 05:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by bestofyou 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Post this in the marriage & DIVORCE section.
2007-06-15 05:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Ashley 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋