How do I talk to my boyfriend about moving in together?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and we both go to the same college. In a year, when my apartment lease runs up, I would love to move in together (we would have been dating over two years by then). How do I talk to him about this? It has never been brought up before..

We are very open and honest with eachother about EVERYTHING..but this issue just seems more intense because it is truely "the next step".

Also, I do stay at his place a lot. I'm actually visiting this weekend. :)

Answer 1

You've got a year to wait honey, don't be in a hurry. Wait and see what happens. Furthermore, if you really love this guy, and you hope to someday marry him. Don't live together first. Researchers have found that people who lived together prior to marriage, are twice as likely to get divorced as those who did not cohabitate before marriage. Now, I know that doesn't seem reasonable, but those are the numbers. You actually decrease the chances of having a successful marriage if you live together first.

Answer 2

Tell him your lease is getting over and you have a big problem finding a new house. You can also tell him how expensive it is to rent house singly. This should give him a signal.
If you want to go a bit emotional way, you can start with saying you get nightmares while you sleep alone and can't really continue this for long. You are into some kind of trouble staying alone.
A straight forward way is to ask straight "Can we both start living together" ? It all depends on your relation with him and what kind of person he is.

Answer 3

Just tell him your apartment lease is up soon. Are you wanting to move in together because you can't afford to live by yourself, or you wanting to live together because of your relationship? Sometimes moving in together doesn't work out and ruins the relationship. You would need to have a discussion about who does what in the house as far as cleaning, who would pay which bills. HOw would you handle the grocery bill? These things don't automatically happen. You would both lose your freedom on how you live in your apartment, you would have to compromise on alot of things. You have to be ready to do that.

Answer 4

Well, if you have an open and honest relationship, this should be an easy thing to talk about. Just tell him what you have been thinking about and remind him that he has plenty of time to think about it. Don't worry if he isn't completely open to the idea....it could be that he likes his current living situation. He may warm up to it in a few months. The best advice I can give you is to be honest and open, and this applies to whatever you want to talk about with him. When he sees you being real with him, the more likely he is to be real with you.

Answer 5

Ask him if he is living in the same apartment next year at college, and then ask him that you dont know know what your doing yet and ask him if he has any ideas on where you could live may be suggest something on campus and then he may not like that and offer for you to move in with him and tell him things would be cheaper for the both of you and what not...and that you would like to move in with him, tell him the truth tell him how you feel about the situation, he would like it if you told him how you feel personally and not beated around the bush

things to consider....does he have roommates, if he does do you get along with them, would they really care if you moved in with him.

Answer 6

Hey sometimes when you date someone for a year that is not enough time to give yourself. Sometimes when people mentino the idea of living together..RELATIONSHIPS END. So maybe your guy would not be so HAPPY of this idea. But you can give him clues about it like say that you have a friend whos doing that and you think its smart..since its so much better. and just go "hey would you ever think of that" but make it seem like a careless question and not one that you have been thinking about for a long time and like its really important or else hell freak out. If he says nah ...so say really casually "oh well" n e ways...and change the topic.

Answer 7

do not bring it up....
It will be very difficult to go to college carry on a relationship and do work for school.
It puts alot of pressure on both of you and could lead to problems, as one's curiculum could be much more difficult or demanding that the others.
There could be lack of understanding and inconsideration..... You certainly don't need to focus on that.....
I think you should wait until you are done college before taking the next step..
If it is not something that has been brought up before, it tells me he doesn't want it....

Answer 8

I wouldnt bring it up until its coming closer to the time that your apartment lease "runs up." Therse nothing worst than planning something that big and depending on it, then you guys breaking it off. Keep options open just in case.

Answer 9

Just tell him you think you're ready to take your relationship to the next level, and that you'd like to try living together when your lease runs out. If he says that he's not ready, don't push it. Just give him some time to think about it.

Answer 10

Be like most women...start taking your stuff to his place little at a time. eventually you'll have enough stuff to stay there for a weekend. while your there make sure you take care of him, keep the place looking good, cook, etc. he will like having you there. when your gone at your place he will miss having you at his place. he will ask you to spend the weekend or stay over more and more.. eventually you'll live there and never had to ask.