My Dad was so integral in my life. This is the 2nd Fathers Day without him, and the last few weeks have been so hard, missing him. We spent lots of time together, and I never missed a Fathers Day. How do you handle the grief?
2007-06-15 04:39:10 · 13 answers · asked by 2 Happily Married Americans 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My Dad and I had a great time together, and he was one of the three best friends of my life. (My husband and college roommate are the others, and they all got each other really well.)
We had so many awesome times, and really no bad ones. Even when we didn't have money we had a blast. He loved nature, education, family, work, and lived a good, honest life. We talked about everything, were partners in business, and were each others biggest fans. I think thats why it hurts at times like these. Thanks for all the great suggestions and thoughts!
2007-06-15 06:43:23 · update #1
oh how i could proceed to write a book, a good one at that. My dad was my best friend, the only one who really knew me, understood me had the same hobbies and interests. I love him still so much that it physically hurts. It will get better day by day. The best thing that i can tell u is that have No Regrets. I have none. I quit my job as an RN in order to take care of and spend time with him. I did CPR on him when he passed. he was retired, but worked the day that he passed. since your were a Daddy's Little Girl, (an u still r) make him proud, fall apart if u need 2 and get back up better and stronger like he would want u 2. You r in my thoughts abd prayers. hang in there IT WILL GET BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-15 04:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you've lost your dad, too. My dad died in 1987 when he was 66, then my mom died in 1996 at the age of 69. Both were so young. It continues to be hard, and I think of my dad all the time because he was a huge influence in my life. The saddest thing for me is that he never knew our son, but at least my mom did.
Really, as the years go by the 'grief' part lessens, although the ache is still there. You really DO just tend to remember the beautiful things, and not have so much of the sadness.
2007-06-15 04:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it looks like you were very fortunate to have a loving, caring father who devoted much of his life to you. and a good relationship, good memories and lots of love are hard to find these days.
i'm sorry to hear of your father's death. i know it's quite a loss for you.
have you considered doing a search on GRIEF, LOSS OF A PARENT? there are many good self-help websites out there, which might offer sound advice to help get you through these times.
having good memories of a loving caring parent, even though deceased is better than what i have. my father beat me and screamed at me and put me down all of my life. we haven't spoken for 18 years, and it's been very traumatic. i'd rather have a deceased, caring parent than him.
perhaps try to spend your time this father's day seeking help with your own grief and pain, and hold the good memories close to your heart.
sometimes it takes quite a long time to recover from grief and loss. i hope you will do well.
sending hugs
2007-06-15 04:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to lose a parent - it's a part of life. I just lost mine much sooner than I had expected. I get a little sad, but at the end of the day I am lucky because I had a dad who was around and who loved me. I say a little prayer and tell his picture that I still remember him. So acknowledge it, move on and live your life.
2007-06-15 04:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sharp Marble 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's rough. This is my tenth without the guy. I usually try to focus on some really positive memory. The last time I saw him we went blueberry picking in the woods behind my parents' house and got lost. Funny, given that we'd lived there twenty years. Things like that make me smile and make me thankful for what I did have rather than bitter about what I lost.
2007-06-15 04:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss, my dad died two years ago as well. I agree it is hardest this time of year. I honor him everyday by just passing on his nature to others, talk about good and bad times with family, friends and others so his memory will live on. How about making donations to favorite charities in his memory. I hope this helps, take care of yourself my thoughts and prayers are with you.
2007-06-15 04:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by flozeagles 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
will first im sorry 4 what happen 2 ur dad. will i havent lost my dad or any1.bt i will know it will hurt.well i think u should look up in the sky n wish him a happy fathers day just imagine all the things that u just to do with ur dad n do it with some1 else that u love as much as ur dad.
2007-06-15 04:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by Nena. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look foward on your life. use the method of the lion king when simba, timon and pumba are laying on the grass... and simba remember what his dad told him about the great kings of the past. he is there watching you and you always will have him in your heart. his time here was over and you got to go on cuz i know he made a quite good person out of you. take care'
2007-06-15 05:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by JD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dad passed away in 98. I try to think of his smile, the cute little nick name he had for me and the way he used to play with me. It may sound crazy but sometimes when I'm by myself I still talk to him. I have a pic of him hanging by my bed. He was 53.
2007-06-15 04:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by trueamericancherokee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a friend we have in Jesus.
All our sins and griefs to bear.
What a privilege to carry,
everything to God in prayer.
O' what peace we often forfeit;
O' what needless pain we bear.
All because we do not carry,
Everything to God in prayer.
Pray everyday and move forward with the bold spirit God has blessed you with!
2007-06-15 04:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋