Would you be depressed and angry if you were a lonely old spinster who lives with her sister?

Question

I hate the world.

Answer 1

It's being lonely that's the problem. Being old, or a spinster (a gloriously old-fashioned word), or living with one's sister, can be just fine for many people. But if you're lonely (rather than simply alone) then I'm not surprised you feel depressed and angry.

You say you hate the world. I wonder if you mean it in that sweeping way. Is there anything in the world you like? Trees? Films? Books? Cats? Children (or at least some children)? I'd suggest that if there is ANYTHING that gives you ANY pleasure, you try finding a volunteering opportunity in that area, or join an adult education class relating to it. Can't stand people? Well, at least you might get out for a walk somewhere that you're not likely to meet people but can commune with nature.

It's also possible that you're feeling lonely because that's the expectation. Perhaps you don't really want to be with people. Perhaps you're a writer (many of whom are quite isolated - they write well because they observe so well). Or a painter. In which case, you need to be doing your writing or painting or whatever.

It's also possible that the anger and depression is getting in the way of everything. In that case, try psychotherapy to help you get to the bottom of that and get a different take on it.

Answer 2

Oh, god no. I am divorced and in my 50's. I live with my parents now. It is good for all of us. I help them and they help me. But, I used to live with my sister, and I loved it! I am free to do as I please, can pursue whatever path I want, spend money the way I want without having to ask permission from a partner. I am attending college now so that I can help others when I am finished with it. Life couldn't be better for me. You will find it is more of an attitude problem. You are able to choose to be happy. So choose it and see how your life improves! It really is that simple. Good luck, I hope you can see your way through it. It is all in your perspective.

Answer 3

Naomi, you have to find something to do with yourself and have a life where you feel needed. It is good that you have a place to stay, and family that is within reach, but you are an individual, and you have to be who you are. I'll bet you have a lot to offer the world, please share your knowledge, insights and experiences with those how could benefit.