I've been planning this backpacking trip since January. I spent money on new gear, shoes, clothes, backpacking food. I've made lists, plans, printed maps, researched everything. My wife and kid are on vacation and I'm home alone and just like every year I'm just sitting here.The bag is packed in the other room. All I have to do is get it, get the food in the fridge, load the car and drive three hours to the mountains. I feel sick with anxiety, guilt, worthlessness. If I don't do this, then why do I pretend to love backpacking so much? If this isn't what I want then why did I make all these preparations? What am I going to do for three weeks if every day I could be backpacking but instead I do nothing?
2007-06-15 04:33:50 · 5 answers · asked by Hammurabi 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Force yourself to get out there and follow through on your plans. No good will come of you staying at home, alone, and having these feelings. Go out, hike and conquer your anxiety of being alone. You have not been abandoned, you have time to yourself, which I would imagine is very difficult when you have a family. Enjoy this small bit of freedom while you have it. You will feel much better. Good luck to you.
2007-06-15 04:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋
So did your wife and kids go on a separate vacation BECAUSE you were planning this hiking trip???
It may be that now that your family is gone, and you have quiet house to yourself, you just want to do nothing.
If you are usually busy and out working, staying at home and doing nothing may be what you need.
You probably feel guilty because you are "SUPPOSE" to go hiking but what you really want to do is stay home and lounge around...I say do exactly that.
In the future let your wife know that you just need some down time by yourself at home, while it is quiet. Then when you go back to work after your vacation you will be happier and work better.
My husband is an attorney, and the kids and Like to go see my family for a while in the summer and he likes to do nothing and that is o.k.
2007-06-16 14:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself in the car and just go !!! You said yourself that you will be miserable anyway if you sit there and do nothing. Take this time to do some serious soul searching. Enjoy the scenery and try to figure out what you really do want.
If you really don't want to be alone, return as much of your gear as you can and go join your wife and kids !!!!
2007-06-15 12:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by enufsaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you may be suffering from depression. You might want to see a therapist. It can help you feel better about yourself.
You might also want to think about why your wife and kid are going on a separate vacation. Is your marriage in trouble?
2007-06-15 11:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by SpaceMonkey67 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u have friends and family up in the mountains u should probably go because u dont wanna keep them waiting on u do u?
2007-06-15 11:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ben W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋