Flower Girl Dress dilemma?

Question

Okay....so my friend bought her daughter a dress a few months back to be used as a flower girl dress..(I was really disapointed because I wanted to do that together). It's really pretty, but sort of creamy white next to my stark white dress. She said if I want the FG in another dress then it's fine and she can use this dress (which was on clearence for $15 anyway) for something else. Should I take her up on that offer, or let it be? Do you think creamy white looks okay with stark white? Not to mention I made her headpiece and it doesnt look good with the dress she bought......

Liss- isnt it nice you can afford to buy eveyone's dress? It's a bridesmaids responsibility to buy their dress, and she just bought that dress because it was on sale and hoped to use it.

Note: My bridesmaid's dresses are lilac colored.

I'm also thrifty so I wouldnt have her spend $150 on a dress in the first place. I'm pretty broke myself with the wedding comming up july 14...

Answer 1

I'd take her up on her offer, if you are in a white dress you will want her in a white dress as well. If you feel odd about it tell her you will give her the 15 dollars for the other one, but you really shouldn't have to, she should have known that it might not match with your wedding gown. If it were her getting married she would be concerned about how the pictures would come out as well. Chances are that there is another 'white' flower girl dress for just as cheap since Easter has past, it won't be a big deal to find something different. I'm getting married July 14th too, so congratulations, its OK to have everything look the way you want it w/o feeling guilty. Good luck to you, she could use the dress for something else I am sure;)

Answer 2

I'd just let her use it. You are not going to be walking down the aisle together and probably seprate in pics so the two whites won't be as obvious as you think. As for the actual ceremony the best choice is usually to put the flower girl in a seat on the front pew with a nice juice box of clear colored juice. If you make them stand they get fidgitey anyway. I've only seen one or two headpieces out of many last past the end of the aisle anyway so I think taking those flowers and turning them into a barette or hair flower spray could be a good alternative.

I would keep looking and if you find a dress that would work better for a good price then you can still talk to her about it. I totally understand about not wanting to waste a ton of money on the flowergirl dress. I'm glad to know that there is another bride out there like me who is worried not only about her budget but the people in the wedding party too.

Answer 3

(I cant believe someone suggested you pay for everyonea wedding wear. I know I sure cant afford to dress my whole bridal party, but I'm being VERY price conscious and including them in the selection)

Anyways. Since her monther already bought a dress you cant very well ask HER to buy another, but I don't see anything wrong with you buying another. Take her and your flower girl out for lunch and shopping and buy a new dress together. Maybe you can even let the flower girl try on a few for the two of you, she'll have fun modeling them for you and it will be a nice day to bond with your flower girl and her mother. I would pay for the second dress though.

If money is an issue (those little dresses can be expensive, but you can get them on sale for very inexpensive), I doubt anyone will notice a small color difference. If its noticeable, perhaps add ivory and white flowers to your bouquet and make her dress another accent color in your wedding. Embrace the creamy ivory instead of rejecting it.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I don't think it looks "off" with the FG in cream and the Bride in hospital white. But if it doesn't look good with the whole bridal procession (depending on your bridesmaids' dresses), then I think you need to find another dress for the daughter. Your friend is offering to let you find the girl another dress, so hopefully she wouldn't be too sticky or hurt over the issue.
Explain your viewpoint to your friend. If she really wants the best for you and your wedding, hopefully she'll see what you see.

Your wedding should be as picture perfect as possible! But remember, in the end it won't matter as much as you think it does right now.
In the end, it will all boil down to why you are getting married. It is a day to celebrate the love of you and your fiance and to join you two together for your time on Earth.

Congratulations and good luck with your friend. :)

Answer 5

I'd just go with it. It'll be good to have a little difference between the two of you. In the end, all that should matter is that everyone shows up. I've had to adopt this attitude. My color scheme is kindly messed up too, but I don't care. My bridesmaid and junior bridesmaid were supposed to wear lilac and my flower girl white. Now my bridesmaid found a dress on sale for $49 that fades from lilac to a dark bluish/purple. My junior bridesmaid is wearing off white, and my flower girl is wearing lilac. Who cares, it works. :) I just want everyone to be there without having to shell out a fortune. In the end, all that matters is that we get married.

Answer 6

I think you should let the little girl wear the dress her mom bought. Its not like you'll be carrying her around or anything. She enters way before you. the only time you will be together is in the pics of the wedding party. So when the time comes, have her stand in front of the lilac dresses and not you. then she'll appear to be in a bright dress. if your friend is a bridesmaid, have her stand in front of her mother.

this is a small detail that you shouldn't even worry about. don't get caught up in things that won't even be noticed by anyone but you

just my opinion.

good luck and congratulations

Answer 7

It will look fine. No one will notice. This is NOT something to worry about if your wedding is July 14. She will be an adorable little girl in a cute dress, and quite a few people will be relieved to not see the "mini bride" flower girl dresses.

Answer 8

I agree with the other poster who said they wouldn't notice the difference. Little kids are just cute in formal wear. If she doesn't look good in the headpiece just place some flowers in her hair as she is the flower girl and all and call it a day. The more structured things you put on kids the more likely it is they aren't quite looking the way you want them to be later. Unless the cream is nearly yellow I really wouldn't pay attention to the little girl except to go "awww" as she walks down the aisle.

Answer 9

I would change the dress...but YOU pay for it..obviously this friend was trying to tell you hey i cant afford 150 on a dress my daughter will wear once..not to mention the shoes tights and everything else that goes with it..you can go to jcpenney or even walmart and get a first communion dress..

and creamy and white i think would look pretty bad together

Answer 10

I've seen plenty of the opposite - flower girl in a white dress and bride in ivory. To tell you the truth, I never would have even noticed except the bride was worried and pointed it out. The pictures still look great.