My brother(my kid's uncle) is verbally mean to my kids. He's not physically mean to them, and they've never been left alone with them. He just says mean things and he's an adult!!! He is married but doesn't have kids of his own. He says things to my 10 yr old son that are degrading to his physical body (he's overweight), or he'll tell him "I'm not gonna come visit you in jail when you get there".
Anyone have a similar problem.
What should I do about it? I never say anything to him. We just try and leave quickly and try to avoid him.
He's not all bad. He's an ok guy to me and he's always been a good brother. I just think he has some jealousy issues or anger issues.
2007-06-15 03:08:33 · 7 answers · asked by veebeedee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, my brother is very good with my kids. If he was mean like you describe I would have a talk with him and tell him that your children's self esteems are important to you and that you try to use positive reinforcement...etc...if that doesnt work I dont think you should allow your children to be around him for any extended periods of time.
2007-06-15 03:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, ur allowing ur brother to get away with degrading ur children??? Stand up for them & open ur mouth!!! He may be an ok brother but he is a terrible uncle! In the meantime, ur teaching ur kids it's ok for him to show this behaviour. How do u think ur kid's feel knowing that their own mother isn't defending them? I don't mean to be so harsh but these r YOUR children!!! I suggest that u pull ur brother aside & in private, talk to him about it. If he doesn't listen then there is no need to have ur kid's around him till he smarten's up. >>>ZETA
2007-06-15 03:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My siblings are not like that, but if they were? I wouldn't let them around my kids until they started behaving properly. That's the bottom line. If he wants to hang out with you, then he needs to clean up his act. You have your kids to think about, and that is more important than your brother and his problems. If he has problems, he should go see his doctor or a therapist, and not take it out on your kids. No way I would put up with that, even if I do love my siblings.
2007-06-15 03:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother may need professional help ... he may not be able to stop with out help. I would talk to your kids in depth about their uncle and tell them "he's sick and needs help" I would also keep an open and honest relationship with your kids on what he may say in the future. Trust me your not alone.
Your kids are going to grow up someday and will need to know how to effectively get along with difficult people.
Take care
2007-06-15 04:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by Shells 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they sound really rude! just be straight and say what you have just told us... it migh shame them into teaching thier children how to be behave! them bringing a pie was a nice gesture, and i hope you thanked them for it... sometimes, the best way to get people to use manners is to use manners towards them first. they might be the "if they respect me, i will respect them" sort, as opposed to the people who are less selfish and show respect to everone...i take it you are one of them :) Next, my sister has had two babies, and i was there the whole time whilst they were in their "baby years" (my nephews are 2 & 3). When they are little they are a PAIN to get back to sleep sometimes! which is why i think you should of held the baby when they started poking at him, and when they came near you should of said "you can look but dont touch because Baby is sleeping" in a nice voice. if they went against this, you should get the parents involved by saying something like "no, the baby is sleeping and doesnt want to be disturbed. its not very nice poking him, IS IT MUMMY/DADDY?" and then they would of had to step in and tell thier kids to stop. now with George. trust me, LOADS of guys are really funny about breast feeding; not because they are perverts, some just find it facsinating or disgusting (us women understand it is natural, but men are a bit weird about it). he may not of been looking at it in a sexual way. if he WAS then you should tell your husband that it is really bothering and upsetting you, and should talk to him. if george continues after that, suggest (in a FIRM voice) that he steps outside untill the baby is finished feeding. when he cried and the kids laughed, thats when you should of got MUCH MUCH firmer. told them that they would have to got outside of the room untill Baby was asleep again. if the parents objected you should point out that it is YOUR house and YOUR baby, and that if they wernt happy with your rules, they could leave. maybe dont tell your partner that they are not allowed around ever again, as it is his family (i know how it feels, i have issues with my partners family too). maybe suggest having them around for a adults only night? or meet out for a cup of coffe during the day, so you can leave when ever you like? hope i helped, if all else fails, just tell them straight! x P.S please ignore Terri J's comment on excusing yourself from the room to breastfeed. it is YOUR house, and it is completely natural. its THEM that have the problem, so ask THEM to leave.
2016-04-01 09:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not let your brother around your kids. Sounds like he has got some deep-seated emotional issues. What is wrong with him? I bet you are correct in saying he is jealous. Have you thought about asking him why he is so awfully rude around them? Or does he hate children?
2007-06-15 03:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Amy K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just belittle his remarks ....
2007-06-15 03:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋