The other day my boyfriend told me that he might change colleges and that is was probably going to be out of state. I got sad because I really love him, we have been together for 6 months. I ended up crying and stuff but the next day I was fine and apologized for crying. Then he told me I freaked him out, but I think that that is a natural reaction to what he told me.
SO the other day I went to lunch with him and his mom for her birthday, she invited me to her birthday party but she didn't know what time it was going to be yet and told me that she would have my boyfriend tell me the details. And usually after we go to lunch or something we hang out after or something but he just sad goodbye. Well the day of her party my boyfriend never told me the details, and I was talking to him on the phone, and then he was like "I have to get ready for my moms party, I will talk to you later."
So I was just wondering why he was acting wierd and if I really freaked him out when I cried?
2007-06-15 02:55:02 · 15 answers · asked by pickles8 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Doesn't sound good...his strange behavior is his way of trying to distance himself from the relationship...so he probably wants out...just let him go, no one is worth any such grief
2007-06-15 03:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by Maestro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is usually calm and gentile while sober, then yes it sounds like its the alcohol. alcohol is technically a drug since it alters a person's state of mind. for your boyfriend, it makes him violent, as with some other people it makes them tell everyone "i love you man!" and cry a lot. alcohol has different effects on everyone and it sounds like your boyfriend is an angry drunk. i would say refuse him sex when he is inhibited, but if he's an angry drunk it will just make him far worse and who knows what he might do. maybe when you go out tonight, give him a limit of how many drinks he should have and let him know how much he hurts your feelings when he does get too drunk. if he cares about you he will try and limit what he does when you're around. if he's been drinking a lot more than usual and is becoming dependent on it, then he could have alcoholic tendencies or some other type of anger issues that he's been hiding before you moved in with him. you need to have a serious talk with him about this and don't just let him go "oh sorry baby" only to have him keep doing it again and again. you don't deserve that.
2016-05-21 01:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah - you freaked him out, I think. I think you should give him some space. Just some time to cool off a little. The more you are all over the place wondering what's going on - the worse it will be... for both of you. Wait a few days and call him and ask how the party was and if you can talk to him. He may be purposely trying to distance himself because he cares. You know - the move may not be so easy on him either - your feelings aren't the only ones that matter. Cut him a little break here, you know?
2007-06-15 03:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets keep it real honey, he's seeing someone else and he doesn't know how to tell you. The reason he freaked out when you cried b/c he didn't know you cared. On purpose he didn't give you the details to mom's party b/c the other chick was there and he didn't want you and her there at the same time. So find you someone who cares about you the same as you care about him. Men come a dime a dozen. And never apologize for crying. CRY... Loving a man hurts, him not loving you back hurts worst. Keep your head up never give up.
2007-06-15 03:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I have to break the bad news to you but, he doesn't want to be with you anymore. He just doesn't know how to tell you so he is distancing himself. Your crying didn't make a difference, the minute he brought up that he "might" go to a different college it was over. I would try to move on before this gets more painful. You deserve love and you will find it. Good luck. (HUG)
2007-06-15 02:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by sm0kinac3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... It's hard to give you the "right" answer, but why don't you talk to him and hear him out? Maybe you did freak him out by crying, or maybe there's something else bothering him? I think you should ask him and talk about the problem. Sorry, but it's the only answer got, hope things will be okay again.
2007-06-15 03:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. You are not on your own, Girl friends, boy friends, this friend, that friend. I hear it all the time I answer hundreds of this type of letter all the time. and things always work out. But young people are always swapping and changing. It's I love him/her so much then it's I could almost strangle him/her. Or she broke up my relation or he did this or she did that. etc so you see it's really smoke in the wind. Hope this helps all the best.
AGONY UNCLE
2007-06-15 03:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by coofooman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are freaking each other out, and a good communication session of honesty is called for.
2007-06-15 02:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he want's to end the relationship, or at least give it some space, you should decide wether that would work for you or not, if you feel like playing games, make him jelous... go out with male friends etc... good luck...
2007-06-15 03:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by back to haunt u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he is as sad as you and don't what to do he as scare as you to lose you. just talk about it and you will know why he is acting like that.
i have the same problem and it work.
the important in love is trust and communication
2007-06-15 03:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by businessmanaging 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋