my boyfriend wants me to burn my old diary?

Question

i started this diary at 11 and I was very depressed back then so i wrote down every little detail...about my sister (we never got a long), my fathers death, dreams I had of my father (after he died), boyfriends, ex-boyfriends, ect...Anyway my boyfriend found it and started reading it and now he wants me to burn it because he thinks it is going to make me depressed again but the problem is that i don't want to because i have a bad memory and if i do burn it I'm scared i might forget everything..my memory loss is pretty bad sometimes i forget my sons name...so what do i do??

yes my boyfriend is somewhat controlling but we have been together for 2 years and we have a son..

Answer 1

Tell him you've had it for a long time and it was a way for you to release your feelings and manage your depression. He should understand that. If he doesn't get that, tell him you'll put it away in the attic or a closet. I wouldn't get rid of it because it has all those memories. I still have one I got when I was 7 and I wrote in it until I was about 13.

Answer 2

Idea is to write the DIARY to find out our mistakes and drawbacks and rectify them in future. At the same time it will help the writer to make the decision in a right way.
If the Diary contains the deed of love affair and the writer marries to some one else other the first lover, then, it will create problem in the marriage life of the writer. We all are human beings with likes and dislikes.
for example If you find the diary of your husband and in that he had written about his ex-girl friends affair, don't you feel bad and go into depression and spoil your marital life for ever.
so, there are certain activities which should not be disclosed to any one in this world just to avoid complication. Our life is very small with lots of worries and problems, why should we increase some more in that.
It is up to you to burn it or not.
But I cordially suggest you to erase those pages which contains controversial dialogues.
Even if you erase some contents of your diary, Certain events from our memory will never get erased till our death.

Answer 3

Do not burn it. Explain to him that it's helpful to you because of your memory problem and because it's somthing that helped you deal with major events as a child. There are times I've felt guilty about keeping reminders of things, but think of this: our past experiences make us the people we are today. If he loves the person you are now, all those past experiences made you that person. Are you sure, too, he's not just jealous because of your writings about ex-boyfriends in there? Make sure that's not the real reason. I can't see him being jealous of a junior high boyfriend, but some people (men and women) can be kind of extreme. I also can't see someone honestly wanting you to let something go that was so theraputic for you and could still help you today.

Answer 4

First of all....DO NOT BURN IT! Even if he did find it, he had no right reading it unless u gave him permission to!!! And as far as him being "somewhat" controlling, well, that's another story! U think it's going to change? And cuz u guys have a son together is no excuse for staying with him! Ur only teaching ur son how to become the same way but u can deal with that down the road when he treat's his gf's the same way! Good Luck!

Answer 5

you know what? all memories are important. good and bad. no one has the right to make you do this. many people keep journals. not necessarily b/c they think they will forget things but b/c sometimes we need to go back and be able to understand things better. other times it's just b/c the act of writing helps us get through tough times.
personally,i'd reconsider this relationship. even if he found it he was way out of line reading it.
i'd also think about seeing a doc for your memory loss. it sounds pretty bad.

Answer 6

The previous stuff from buddies i could shop however the previous stuff from boyfriends i could chuck! merely considering which you're no longer buddies with a number of those human beings anymore, would not recommend they weren't an excellent portion of your existence interior the previous. Why wipe sparkling each and every of the recommendations merely because of the fact assorted time has exceeded? With the ex boys - yeah, burn em in case you elect for. according to hazard bypass by and notice if there is something specific which you fairly choose for to maintain then discard something.

Answer 7

Don't you dare burn that diary. Let me tell you, your boyfriend is so in the wrong for even reading that. No matter what lame excuse he gives you for reading it.

I had an EX do this to me once. And he turned out to be a jealous, possessive, jerk. No one has the rights to thoughts in your head and that is what a diary is.

I got rid of my diary, but I wish I had just got rid of the boyfriend.

Answer 8

Don't do it. Put the diary away and don't get it out. It is absolutely none of your of you b/f's business what you do with your personal things.

And you didn't ask this question, but here's some free advice. Any man who has a child with you, and who thinks he has the right to tell you what to do but isn't man enough to marry you, is worthless. If you don't respect yourself enough to demand more of him, then why would he? I don't care how long you have been with him, its long enough for him to make a commitment. This is what your son will grow up thinking is how a man acts. Its not.

Answer 9

NO WAY SHOULD YOU BURN IT!! i had a diary which i had kept for a longg time,writing everything about my father my bf my life,,and when me and my bf grew apart and my father left,,i burned it, and it was the worst decision..i regret it so much,,because it had memories that arnt necessarily stuck in my mind and ive lost them forever,,and as you have memory loss, you of all people shouldnt do this..your bf needs to back off,,why is he intent on you erasin and turning your back on your past,just beacause it wasnt all good back then?? AND HE SHOULDNT OF READ IT IN THE FIRST PLACE!,,plz plz plz dont burn it,,you'll regret it

Answer 10

You're going to want this diary years from now. Wrap it up, put it in a safe deposit box, and leave it there.

Tell your boyfriend that you won't be coerced into destroying your diary. Also, if he is just a little controlling now, he will be a lot controlling later. Stop him in his tracks. Tell him what you expect in a mate, and stand by those standards.