help!!!!!!!!!?

Question

the other night there was a party. i went off in the dark with my boyfriend and another couple. we sat in the woods and talked. everything was going fine... my bf had his arm around me, we were happy and laughing. we got up to leave and while the otehr couple were leaving my bf took my hand and held me back. we kissed, which this is not the first time we have, but when he kissed me i pulled away. the first time we kissed, i did not do this. i could tell he wanted it to be longer, but i wasnt sure what to do... please help, what do i do next time, did i do something wrong by pulling away?.. and plz be serious.

P.S. i am only 13

i dont need you telling me that i was too young to be kissing him, which i am deffenetly not, i just need an answer to my questions.

Answer 1

if you are only 13 you should be kissing boys in the woods anyway... Be young, have fun with girl friends, don't worry about boys yet, you'll have plenty of time for that later in life.

Answer 2

No, what you did was NOT wrong. You're young, and obviously very smart! I'm 24 and I have so much respect for you after reading your question! I have a cousin your age and I wish she respected herself and made wiser decisions as much as you do! Showing a guy/boyfriend that you respect yourself is never a bad thing. If he breaks up with you for not moving "fast enough" than he never deserved you in the first place! Kissing is one thing, but letting him move on to other things will just lead to your heart being broken at your age! You have PLENTY of time to do those things when you're a bit older with a guy you TRULY love! And if he can't respect your decision to take things slow than dump him or just let him go! It's really unique for a girl to be smart and take things slow these days! And I think it's great that you are trying to be one of the smart ones! I hope you can stay strong and I wish you the best in life! Just remember, you're worth waiting for, and the one guy who notices this too, WILL WAIT! :o)

Answer 3

no you don't do anything wrong
that kind bf just want to have a past time
you can say if it is a real bf
if he know how to respect girls
the first time that you said you have kissed him
theres no big deal
because its just the first
but when he do it again without your permission
he really don't love you
i think it's just a crush or something
why you don't ask him
why he do that to you
go to the public place or in a restaurant
not do it on private
you are right to do that
I'm 10 yrs. old
i say all of this to share my feelings
if you don't want my answer its fine for me
cause it's an advise of a kid
do what you think that is right
hope you listen to me!!!

Answer 4

BRAVO to you!!!! You pulled away because you felt uncertain about continuing to kiss your boyfriend way out there in the dark. That was your gut telling you that things didn't feel right, and you were very BRAVE and SMART to follow your gut instinct. You should NOT feel bad about pulling away because your feelings are real and valid. No matter what your boyfriend wants, you have to be true to yourself. You have more common sense and willpower than a lot of 30 year-olds I know, so I'm very, very proud of you!

Answer 5

First, you're young so don't worry. If you really like him and he really likes you then there should be no problem. I'm going to assume he is your age, unfortunately guys are weird especially in their early teens, I know I used to be that age. So who knows how he feels about it. You did nothing wrong, and as for next time, I don't know just do what your heart feels is right. Just do not do anything you will regret in the future, this will be anything that you have second thoughts about.

Answer 6

If you wanted to pull away, then you did the correct thing. Always go with you gut instinct. Also, it sounds as if you are uncomfortable being alone with him for too long, like you can't trust yourself. Stay away from that situation. Keep your time with your bf in the company of others.

Answer 7

no you never did anything wrong
But you will come to realize that boy have hormones so their desire for sex is quite high at that age and they will attempt different strategy on their quest to get it.
pulling away was exactly what you should of done for the simple reason you felt like it.
your 13 an age where you start to make your own decision and when making these decisions you should consider what is best for you and you should never feel forced into doing something you don t want to do
that time will come when you have children of your own

Answer 8

Yes, pulling away is not wrong. You are too young to lip lock like adults. This is where you have to be careful not to rush things. too many irresponsible tweenage pregnancies and two lives ruined.

the mother: cant finished school
the kid: baby daddy probably not going to stay and mom ends up with several abusive relationship screwing the kids young mind.

Answer 9

Take your time, do things at your pace, some people get pressured into "doing the right thing" and end up pregnant, your fine, if he dont understand, move on

Answer 10

You are thinking way too much into this and overanalyzing. Most women (including myself) have this problem. Don't worry about it. Your bf probably didn't think much of it. Just do what you want to do.