my dad is racist....?

Question

ok so i have alot of friends that are of different races, and my dad totally hates it, but hes always like you always go and hang out with them and you never brings your friends here, and he thinks i am messin around with them which i would never do, i try to stand up to my dad, but he just gets pissed and walks away what should i do? the reason i won't bring them around is cuz he makes racist remarks all the time, and i do not want to lose friends over that, i love my friends to death and i will protect them as much as possible. so you people who think whites are all racist, take a look at me i'm not.

Answer 1

ever hear the old saying that the hair of the dog is the best cure? explain to your friends that your dad was raised in ignorance and he needs them to be around so he can see your interaction and possibly, eventually, see his err in thinking.
ever watch the old 'archie bunker'? all in the family? as ignorant as the character was, they played it as in real life; eventually, he learned to love everybody, he just called them all the exceptions to the rules!
and if your dad doesn't rethink his racism, because i know, i was a horrible victim of it a few years ago, it's still out there, then maybe he'll have enough character about himself to get embarassed when he speaks out of turn in front of your nice friends. tell your friends to just laugh if he speaks out-of-turn. you have to just let your friends know, first, so they can act accordingly. they might even like the challenge!!! maybe they can use humor to make him see how 'off-colour' he is! ! !

Answer 2

My dad does the same thing. I narrowed it down to this and it makes complete sense. We pass down traits, beliefs, values and morals to our offspring. Our parents were influenced by their parents and so on. When my dad was in the Navy 50 years ago, black people were not even allowed to enter facilities, where white people congregated. The government had ended slavery, yet the racism carried on. It being a slow process over the generations to adjust to but over time racism will finally once and for all become non existant. Your dad is only passing down his beliefs which he thinks is right. Since communication is so world profound these days we, the younger generations are now able to view and hear others thoughts on the issue, not just our parents. It isn't his fault he feels this way, it is just basically his generation who has fallen prisoner of racism. If he is anything like my dad, it isn't just blacks, it is any race that isn't his kind. If you ask me what that kind of race is called, assisim would be my reply.

Answer 3

You dad probably grew up in and around the 30's or 40's. Most everyone was a raciest back then, He will never change his point of view because it is buried into his subconscious and he simply can't. But he will eventually learn how to accept your friends. Warn your friends how your dad is, but still hang out with them, and invite them over to your home. the more you do, the faster your dad will come to terms with reality. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Back in the 60's when I was growing up, many people were racist, its how they grew up. My mother warned me about the most ridiculous things about what other races or cultures would do to me. There was absolutely no foundation for her fears but again, its what her parents taught her. I believe differently, I am a different person culturally than my mother and I raised my daughters to see people as people.
We broke the cycle that was started in our family, generations ago.

Your father is not you, you need to live your own values. However, don't disrespect your father while you do that, it sorta defeats the purpose.

Answer 5

What a tough question..............it is extremely hard to open racist peoples minds about race. They are so stuck in there ways. You just need to be honest with him and explain that you don't bring your friends over because you are embarrassed of his racism. Explain to him it is not like it was back in his days when they did not have a ton of other races in school. You might asking your school counselor what to do. They should have tons of ideas.

Answer 6

lol...im not either. just talk to your dad and tell him what you just wrote here. if he doesnt understand and has a hard head, just ignore him and keep being with your friends. if he loves you, he will learn to accept them, because everyone is the same on the inside. i have friends of all races and i love them too.

Answer 7

i have lot of friends who are differant races and i'm white i went out with an asian at one stage and i hate racists they are sad and jealous because no one pays attention to them anymore

Answer 8

i am also white and grew up with a racist father. he accepted that i had coloured friends and he himself will talk to coloured people but he just didnt want me to go out with a coloured person. I know that it is hard but you just have to tell him how you feel over and over again and he wil soon start to accept them as your friends.

Answer 9

Yup u r a nice person. Keep it up.

Answer 10

you are going to have to accept that is the way he is, you can not change him