Pregnancy before marriage in Islam?

Question

I am a bit confused. I know that being pregnant before getting married to you future husband is one of the worst sins. I understand that if if this happens to anyone they should repent and ask for forgiveness to allah and face punishment if necessary. A friend of mine says that if you get pregnant even if you get married before the baby is born, your baby is haram and won't have his/her book so you might as well have an abortion. Now according to some websites abortion is never allowed unless the mother will die buy completing the pregnancy. For others is allowed within 120 days, others say it's 40 or 90 days and others say before the soul is breathed into the baby ... which is not clear when. Anyways ... I don't understand why should the innocent baby be punished for two adults sin ... and why should you have to have an abortion if you don't want to, it also seems to me like the easy way out. Life is a test and if this should happen to anyone what should they do?

Answer 1

life spoiled

Answer 2

Old Attitudes have come from the five centuries ago. The pregnancy before marriage is only a technicality, mistakes happen, it is not deliberate and it is with your intended future husband not a one night stand. The worst sin is when you perform an abortion which is murdering the unborn child, it has feeling, it will be in pain, his soul will cry out to God. As an adult if some strikes you with sharp instrument you will bleed and be in pain, the little unborn child cannot speak or cry and beg you to spare his little life, so you must use your discretion and not go along with sociery. To please society you are prepared to commit murder and can you live with that on your consciousness. Let the child be born, you will not only change your mind about giving the child up for adoption you will be willing to face the world and keep the child which is really yours to cherish and care for and love and educate and raise to be a great man. Society makes rules which is necessary but you must sit down and think about it and not be impulsive and kill the child because you not only regret the action but by performing the abortion, but your inside will experience mutilation and will suffer health complications. You are smarter than all of them. You are right Why should the child suffer. No one can force you to do anything you dont want to do. We live in civilization and you will find many people wil give you the support you require. Remember it is easy to Kill but not so easy "to give life" or "save a life" One is a Killer and the other one is a HERO. Which is the Better one?

Answer 3

Dear Asker,

Thank you for asking. First your friend made mistake in saying that the baby is haram. Your friend misinterpreted the basic principle in Islam regarding baby born out of wedlock (before marriage) and abortion.

In Islam, a baby is born pure without any sin even if the baby is born out of wedlock. The status of the baby is only that he/she is an illegitimate child. Illegitimate child is not the same as "haram". This where your friend made the mistake.

As regard to abortion, in Islam it is forbidden (haram) for Muslims to have an abortion except for health reason.

Example of abortion allowed in Islam because of health reason: A Muslim woman can have an abortion if she will die when she give birth to the child. But this may only be allowed after a doctor or specialist has been consulted and the doctor had confirmed that giving birth will endanger the life of the mother and the doctor is in the opinion that the only way to save the life of the mother is by way of an abortion.

So, no Muslims can have an abortion just because the girl/lady was pregnant before marriage.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

how can ur friend say like that? Islam is not a murderer..at first why do they want to have sex at the first time if they afraid to face the consequences? and if they really addict to sex why they didn't wear any protection at first place..?
em..they dint have to punished the baby because the baby din know anything..its his/her parents fault..after all u said that they will getting married also rite..so they dont have to abort the baby just get married and end of story.. remember..the baby has nothing to do with what happen..

Answer 6

Getting pregnant from a man who is not legal husband is prohibited in all the decent societies.However, your friend has misinformed you that bay born without a proclaimed marriage is itself not haram at all being innocent and born out of a natural process as such does not deserve to be punished for the misdeeds of his parents.If someone happens to embark upon such a situation, instead of killing the innocent baby, they should seek foregiveness from God, who knows what is in their minds and their intentions.Since reproduction of the human beings is the most subtle, most required and a state of art process as such God has attached compulsions and restrictions of a higher degree for the signifying the importance and respect for human beings.Anybody voilating this respect has been made liable for asvere punishment as disgracing the advent of an innocent human being who has still to step in the world.However, if someone really wants to make amends for his blesphemous act, and not merely intending to get a social exhoneration of this blame,can be pardoned.The best thing is that one should not become slave to his base desires and refrain from bringing an insult of society to their offsprings.The extreme infidelity is not to God but to the offsprings.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

lets be honest every child is a gift from god and welcome ... as to getting pregnant before marriage ...it happens but what I cannot understand is why the female should carry all the blame Islamic males are so full of ........ it takes 2 to reproduce enjoy your baby let those like the father without sin as if cast the first stone ...have we really moved back to the dark ages cannot believe I'm reading this........ this is barbaric ..this is a UK site

Answer 9

Why if the girl has to keep the child do all the family turn the back on her.No one will marry her the man gets away with it.The girl ends up on the street with baby begging.In some countries it is likely the girl will be killed.

Answer 10

I was taught by an Imam that Islam does not believe in original sin, so the innocent baby is only responsible for his or her sin.

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