Up for a Role Play on Parenting?

Question

I'm a woman in her fifties and I'm raising two kids. Technically, I'm raising a young adult and a teenager. I know I shouldn't be having a problem with parenting at this age, nonetheless, I'm having trouble with my eldest especially. She's very stubborn and, oftentimes, does not do what I tell her to. Since I gave birth to the youngest, she has been independent of mind and has been rejecting most of my advice. Because of this, we often end up in fights which usually last for days.
Moreover, my daughter does not follow my orders and often shows me disrespect.

Take note: I'm an authoritative disciplinarian. I don't think that my parenting style works wonders on my eldest. Can you suggest anything that could fix my problem?

Answer 1

"I'm an authoritative disciplinarian. I don't think that my parenting style works wonders on my eldest. Can you suggest anything that could fix my problem?"

Take that keen self-awareness in the second sentence, and follow through. 'Authoritative disciplinarian' stuff is just going to alienate a young adult.

She's _supposed_ to be gaining independence. Let her.

But it's hard to answer this without more information.

Answer 2

well being that she is a teenager then these things are natural with a teenager and i think every parent knows that . Teens are rebilious by nature and she will straighten out eventually . all girls especially fight with their mother and have arguments . You just have to learn to pick your battles with teens . I know i had two teenage sons in the house at the same time . I thought I was going to the insane assylum if they did not start listening . Well we got passed it and you will too . Good luck and just start knowing what to pick battles over .

Answer 3

You say your older daughter is a "young adult"
I suggest you start treating her like one.